In-laws for the weekend. They have no college savings and their high school senior is signed up for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird post. He's supposed to be studying for the December 10th ACT on Thanksgiving?

Studying...working on essays...common app...volunteering...reading. Something. Anything. They're flat broke and the kid is a lazy sack of shit acting like the tuition money is going to fall from the sky.

He's a HS senior. How many times has he taken this test before? Maybe he has already done a prep class and maybe he has already read the ACT prep books.

Maybe he already has decent scores and is going in there rested and confident to see if he can do a little better on the retake.

Leave the kid alone. Seriously. It's possible that he is well aware of the financial situation and he's got community college in mind for the time being - so not feeling the pressure.

We've talked to him for hours since we've been here. He's walking around like the scholarship money falls from the sky. Parents are delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

are your in-laws white proles? are your mother-in-law and father-in-law white proles as well? if so, your dh (or dw) could be an outlier and that your kid(s) could revert to your in-laws 'mean'.



always screen the family before you decide to have children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird post. He's supposed to be studying for the December 10th ACT on Thanksgiving?

Studying...working on essays...common app...volunteering...reading. Something. Anything. They're flat broke and the kid is a lazy sack of shit acting like the tuition money is going to fall from the sky.

He's a HS senior. How many times has he taken this test before? Maybe he has already done a prep class and maybe he has already read the ACT prep books.

Maybe he already has decent scores and is going in there rested and confident to see if he can do a little better on the retake.

Leave the kid alone. Seriously. It's possible that he is well aware of the financial situation and he's got community college in mind for the time being - so not feeling the pressure.

They made it my business talking about their finances and junior's big college dreams the last two days.

In-laws: "We hope he does good enough for some of them big scholarships!"

Me: "Are you studying?"

Kid: "Well...uh...I mean yeah."

Yeah, well it sounds as though a reality check is coming their way. There is nothing wrong with working part time and going to community college. In fact, in this kid's case that might be a good plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

are your in-laws white proles? are your mother-in-law and father-in-law white proles as well? if so, your dh (or dw) could be an outlier and that your kid(s) could revert to your in-laws 'mean'.



always screen the family before you decide to have children!

WTH are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

are your in-laws white proles? are your mother-in-law and father-in-law white proles as well? if so, your dh (or dw) could be an outlier and that your kid(s) could revert to your in-laws 'mean'.



always screen the family before you decide to have children!

WTH are you talking about?

the behaviors that OP is describing are common in white prole families. Since they are her 'in-laws', they are related to OP's spouse. therefore, OP's spouse is from that stock and while OP's spouse might have 'excelled' he/she may be an outlier and op's own kids might be more 'on level' with how her in-laws are.

[Anonymous]

I was a social worker for two years out of college. My dad told me don't bother, you can't help those people. I called him an angry cynic.

Long story short he was right. Trash are trash. They pass their IQ and their dysfunctions onto the kids before the kids even enter kindergarden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a social worker for two years out of college. My dad told me don't bother, you can't help those people. I called him an angry cynic.

Long story short he was right. Trash are trash. They pass their IQ and their dysfunctions onto the kids before the kids even enter kindergarden.

I'm glad you switched fields.

[Anonymous]

Zero test prep. No classes. No studying at all. My daughter is a National Merit Scholar. We paid nothing at all for her undergrad. My other kids also did well on the test. I don't think studying or taking classes makes much difference. But if it makes folks feel to pay for that stuff, there will always be people willing to take their money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

So based on one child's behavior over Thanksgiving, you have lost sympathy for every family everywhere who can't afford college?

Correct. I looked up merit awards at low tier colleges and they're ridiculously easy to secure. That's before even all the outside scholarships kids can apply for with just some volunteering and a short essay, if that. Easier to sit on your ass like a slob and bitch about how things ain't fair, how the immigrants took all your scholarships.

My kid didn't study for these tests and was a National Merit Finalist and earned a National Merit scholarship. He has a full ride merit scholarship for four years at a top ten STEM university.

Please share his stats.

1550/1600, TJ grad, involved very deeply year round in sports and a music group. Didn't need to study for standardized tests. Some people just do well without prep books and such.

What will be on your relative's college applications? Activities, interests?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your life sounds miserable. Change it.

+100
What a sad little post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

Relaxing during his Thanksgiving break. The horror!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird post. He's supposed to be studying for the December 10th ACT on Thanksgiving?

Studying...working on essays...common app...volunteering...reading. Something. Anything. They're flat broke and the kid is a lazy sack of shit acting like the tuition money is going to fall from the sky.

He's a HS senior. How many times has he taken this test before? Maybe he has already done a prep class and maybe he has already read the ACT prep books.

Maybe he already has decent scores and is going in there rested and confident to see if he can do a little better on the retake.

Leave the kid alone. Seriously. It's possible that he is well aware of the financial situation and he's got community college in mind for the time being - so not feeling the pressure.

They made it my business talking about their finances and junior's big college dreams the last two days.

In-laws: "We hope he does good enough for some of them big scholarships!"

Me: "Are you studying?"

Kid: "Well...uh...I mean yeah."

Nope, this doesn't make it your business at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

So based on one child's behavior over Thanksgiving, you have lost sympathy for every family everywhere who can't afford college?

Correct. I looked up merit awards at low tier colleges and they're ridiculously easy to secure. That's before even all the outside scholarships kids can apply for with just some volunteering and a short essay, if that. Easier to sit on your ass like a slob and bitch about how things ain't fair, how the immigrants took all your scholarships.

My kid didn't study for these tests and was a National Merit Finalist and earned a National Merit scholarship. He has a full ride merit scholarship for four years at a top ten STEM university.

Please share his stats.

1550/1600, TJ grad, involved very deeply year round in sports and a music group. Didn't need to study for standardized tests. Some people just do well without prep books and such.

What will be on your relative's college applications? Activities, interests?

1550/1600? What's his stat for all three subjects combined?

[Anonymous]

There is literally zero evidence that "prepping" for standardized test improves your score.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

So based on one child's behavior over Thanksgiving, you have lost sympathy for every family everywhere who can't afford college?

Correct. I looked up merit awards at low tier colleges and they're ridiculously easy to secure. That's before even all the outside scholarships kids can apply for with just some volunteering and a short essay, if that. Easier to sit on your ass like a slob and bitch about how things ain't fair, how the immigrants took all your scholarships.

My kid didn't study for these tests and was a National Merit Finalist and earned a National Merit scholarship. He has a full ride merit scholarship for four years at a top ten STEM university.

What school is considered as a top 10 STEM? CMU? GaTech? Or VT??