In-laws for the weekend. They have no college savings and their high school senior is signed up for

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Anonymous wrote:the December 10th ACT.

- Wednesday he watched basketball games, netflix, goofed on his phone all night.
- Thursday watched NFL and managed his fantasy football team all day.
- Thursday at dinner he and his parents talked about how excited they are about college. Hope he can do well on ACT to earn merit scholarships.
- After dinner, back to football, fantasy football, college basketball.
- So far today shopping, netflix, sports, goofing on phone.

ACT prep books collecting dust in the kitchen. I no longer feel sorry for families who can't afford college.

So based on one child's behavior over Thanksgiving, you have lost sympathy for every family everywhere who can't afford college?

Correct. I looked up merit awards at low tier colleges and they're ridiculously easy to secure. That's before even all the outside scholarships kids can apply for with just some volunteering and a short essay, if that. Easier to sit on your ass like a slob and bitch about how things ain't fair, how the immigrants took all your scholarships.

My kid didn't study for these tests and was a National Merit Finalist and earned a National Merit scholarship. He has a full ride merit scholarship for four years at a top ten STEM university.

Please share his stats.

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DD is taking the same test and she's been reading fiction for several hours. After two days of non-stop stimulation and the constant stress of school, I know it's the right thing for her to decompress. I'm a little anxious about the quiet but it's what she seems to need right now.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow OP. You sound like a nightmare and incredibly judgmental.

+1000. You're horrific op.

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Are you expected to pay for his college? No? Ok, then butt out!

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If you aren't a troll, you are a terrible person. How did your spouse go to school and be successful enough for you?

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Merit aid ship has sailed. Op is right. His applications should have been in long ago.

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Every person studies differently. If he has been prepping and studying for the last few weeks and plans to spend the next 2 weeks studying, maybe he is taking a holiday weekend to recharge and relax before the final push. I've done that in the past and I was a honors student, top 2% of my class and got a good degree from The Johns Hopkins University.

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Maybe he doesn't need to practice, OP. Some people are just good at those tests.

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird post. He's supposed to be studying for the December 10th ACT on Thanksgiving?

Studying...working on essays...common app...volunteering...reading. Something. Anything. They're flat broke and the kid is a lazy sack of shit acting like the tuition money is going to fall from the sky.

He's a HS senior. How many times has he taken this test before? Maybe he has already done a prep class and maybe he has already read the ACT prep books.

Maybe he already has decent scores and is going in there rested and confident to see if he can do a little better on the retake.

Leave the kid alone. Seriously. It's possible that he is well aware of the financial situation and he's got community college in mind for the time being - so not feeling the pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow OP. You sound like a nightmare and incredibly judgmental.

+1000. You're horrific op.

+1000000. OP go home.

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Not every kid needs to study for the ACT. Trying some problems, yes - probably at least a few before the exam. Working on it on Thanksgiving - I would probably not even allow that ... And PPs are right, there are kids who can score 34-36 on the exam without any studying at all. Maybe this kid is a lot smarter than you think.

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OP, why is this your concern? He is not your child. He is your brother-in-law? Let his parents deal with this and you deal with it when you have a teenager. I'm sure by then, you'll have it all figured out from being in other people's business.

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I was from that family op. The parents just have no freaking clue. Mi W didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Your life sounds miserable. Change it.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a weird post. He's supposed to be studying for the December 10th ACT on Thanksgiving?

Studying...working on essays...common app...volunteering...reading. Something. Anything. They're flat broke and the kid is a lazy sack of shit acting like the tuition money is going to fall from the sky.

He's a HS senior. How many times has he taken this test before? Maybe he has already done a prep class and maybe he has already read the ACT prep books.

Maybe he already has decent scores and is going in there rested and confident to see if he can do a little better on the retake.

Leave the kid alone. Seriously. It's possible that he is well aware of the financial situation and he's got community college in mind for the time being - so not feeling the pressure.

They made it my business talking about their finances and junior's big college dreams the last two days.

In-laws: "We hope he does good enough for some of them big scholarships!"

Me: "Are you studying?"

Kid: "Well...uh...I mean yeah."