I am married, but I recently kissed a co-worker.

[Anonymous]

If you were my husband I would not want to know as long as it never happened again. You need to stay away from her or find a new job. Go to counseling or something to see why you put yourself in that position in the first place. Are you willing to throw away your marriage/family??

[Anonymous]

This woman could be more of a soulmate than your wife. When was the last time you kissed your wife like that?

[Anonymous]

I'd be very concerned about whether a colleague saw you two making out or not. That and her confiding a good friend at work. She has a boyfriend, not a husband, and therefore a lot less to lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

MikeL wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the two you could be soulmates

Yep, only one way to find out.

+1. It wouldn't have happened if there weren't a deep reason. Soulmates. Only way to find out is to let your heart open to the possibility.

.... or the deep reason could be the forbidden nature of an affair, the shiny glean of a new relationship, the rose colored glasses, the feeling of being wanted by a woman 10 years younger....

On the other hand, when you've held your partner's hair back while they puked in the toilet from a stomach virus, rubbed their back as they stood at their mother's casket, and haven't had a real conversation with them in weeks because your kids are always screaming at your feet-- and you still love them-- THAT is soulmates.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell but don't do it again and interact with her on work terms only. I would tell the coworker you want to have a good working relwtionsjip with her but otherwise feel you need to put distance between you two

[Anonymous]

This seems like a set up OP.

You are about to have a meeting with HR.

[Anonymous]

If you want to stay in your marriage, focus on what you and your wife need to work on to make the marriage stronger.
Please don't get wrapped up in those passionate teenage feelings. I am dating again after divorce. I couldn't believe how great it felt the first time I made out with someone new. After years of a passionless marriage, feeling desired and desiring someone else was amazing and a huge ego boost. And who doesn't like shiny and new?
Even though you feel like a teenager, don't act like one. Make sure your brain is making decisions for you rather than getting swept up in the physical and emotional rush. Avoid contact as much as possible with this woman because you will definitely be tempted by the way she makes you feel.

[Anonymous]

She leaned in. That's fantastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

MikeL wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the two you could be soulmates

Yep, only one way to find out.

+1. It wouldn't have happened if there weren't a deep reason. Soulmates. Only way to find out is to let your heart open to the possibility.

.... or the deep reason could be the forbidden nature of an affair, the shiny glean of a new relationship, the rose colored glasses, the feeling of being wanted by a woman 10 years younger....

On the other hand, when you've held your partner's hair back while they puked in the toilet from a stomach virus, rubbed their back as they stood at their mother's casket, and haven't had a real conversation with them in weeks because your kids are always screaming at your feet-- and you still love them-- THAT is soulmates.

Thanks for the speech. Did you get that from Good Will Hunting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is using DCUM as his interactive erotica.

And yet...here you are.

[Anonymous]

I hope you don't catch mono.

I douchebag guy I know was screwing around with super young twenty-somethings and caught mono. When his wife told us, I said, "Mono? The kissing disease? I thought only teenagers and college kids got that. How the heck did he catch that?!?!" I was half-joking. Shortly after she clued in. Apparently the 22 year old was his soulmate...at least through the separation. He bounced around with lots of young soulmates and ultimately married one. His wedding pics look hilarious! He's pushing 50, thinning hair but has a lot of money, and he married a 20 something with fake boobs and a fake tan...and guess what? He's miserable. He finally realizes that he threw away his real family, and he's left with a girl who probably is using him for his money and the lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

OP - your post came off as more giddy than guilty. Annoyingly so.

Instead of mooning about some 20-minute kiss-fest, just think that your coworker girlfriend's lips were probably around someone else's dick before she made out with you. And then you went home and kiss your kids and wife.

[Anonymous]

Why not grab your wife and kiss her for 20 minutes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

.... or the deep reason could be the forbidden nature of an affair, the shiny glean of a new relationship, the rose colored glasses, the feeling of being wanted by a woman 10 years younger....

On the other hand, when you've held your partner's hair back while they puked in the toilet from a stomach virus, rubbed their back as they stood at their mother's casket, and haven't had a real conversation with them in weeks because your kids are always screaming at your feet-- and you still love them-- THAT is soulmates.

Guess my husband isn't my soulmate. Better go find one. He might be next door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not grab your wife and kiss her for 20 minutes?

Ha! Another dh here. Happily married even! That would get me elbowed in the face.