When should a 9 year old shave her armpits?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is unusual for a 9 year old. Have you had her checked For precious puberty?

Totally agree. 9 is super young. My 8.5 year old is definitely years off from puberty (which makes sense as I didn't menstruate till I was just turned 16 and her dad also grew really late) but….I would go to your pediatrician. From there, DON'T make her self conscious about her own body hair! There is nothing "dirty" about having hair in your armpits….last I checked it's pretty natural and normal in many cultures. If she isn't self conscious PLEASE don't be the one to shame her!

Here is some info for you -- educate yourself. Your 8.5 year old needs your guidance.

http://patient.info/health/adrenarche

From your article.

Occasionally, male hormone excess can be caused by problems other than adrenarche and your child may need to have some tests. If your child experiences any symptoms that you are worried about or if you have any concerns at all it is important you seek the advice of their GP or paediatrician.

Obviously this Mom has some concerns. I think that her pediatrician is more qualified to answer them than DCUM is. So stop being a hair monger and lets not pretend that every 9 year old has excessive body hair growth. They simply don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is unusual for a 9 year old. Have you had her checked For precious puberty?

Totally agree. 9 is super young. My 8.5 year old is definitely years off from puberty (which makes sense as I didn't menstruate till I was just turned 16 and her dad also grew really late) but….I would go to your pediatrician. From there, DON'T make her self conscious about her own body hair! There is nothing "dirty" about having hair in your armpits….last I checked it's pretty natural and normal in many cultures. If she isn't self conscious PLEASE don't be the one to shame her!

Here is some info for you -- educate yourself. Your 8.5 year old needs your guidance.

http://patient.info/health/adrenarche

We get it. You learned the word adrenarche, or had or were a very hairy child. I understand that it is exciting to use terms that you personally find important. That doesn't mean that you can diagnose this child, or any child, over the internet or say what is normal or healthy for any child.

[Anonymous]

OP here...yes, my DD has the American Girl "Care and Keeping of You" book... and she's read it. She's well aware of her underarm hair and when I asked (ONE TIME!) in the spring if she wanted to shave, she seemed disinterested. I'm not at all concerned about the pace of her development. It's within normal range. I just don't want her to be embarrassed. But, as someone noted, swim season is over, and she doesn't wear sleeveless shirts to school, so I will let this go.

[Anonymous]

I shave my 9 year old armpits. They have thick black hair. I'm not going to allow her to be teased. Yes it sucks. Yes she has precocious Adrenarche.

All you moms with little girls with downy blond hair need to know it isn't something I take lightly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for girls who are hairy and parents don't help them. It may be ok culturally in other countries but it isn't ok here in the US. I see little girls with unibrows and mustaches and wonder why their parents aren't doing anything. 10-11 boys and girls can be cruel. Don't give them extra ammo. Do you really want your girl to be known as the hairy girl!??!?

I have boys this age. They would never notice. Let kids be kids!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for girls who are hairy and parents don't help them. It may be ok culturally in other countries but it isn't ok here in the US. I see little girls with unibrows and mustaches and wonder why their parents aren't doing anything. 10-11 boys and girls can be cruel. Don't give them extra ammo. Do you really want your girl to be known as the hairy girl!??!?

I have boys this age. They would never notice. Let kids be kids!

Do you really think this is the type of thing your sons would talk to you about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

Different poster here. Are you an American woman? Do you walk around with hairy armpits and hairy legs?

It's kind of like body odor. It isn't ok in the US. I have been to many countries where people stink and women have hairy arms and legs. It's unacceptable in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

Different poster here. Are you an American woman? Do you walk around with hairy armpits and hairy legs?

It's kind of like body odor. It isn't ok in the US. I have been to many countries where people stink and women have hairy arms and legs. It's unacceptable in the US.

Yes, I'm American. I am a professional and I am also very attractive. Sometimes I shave my legs and armpits and sometimes I do not, even in the summer! No one tells me what I should or should do and I have never felt ridiculed or ashamed of either choice. So guess what, it IS acceptable, despite what you and your pearl clutching friends may think.

We are sending terribly damaging messages to our daughters when we tell them, at the age of NINE, that their bodies are not acceptable the way they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

Different poster here. Are you an American woman? Do you walk around with hairy armpits and hairy legs?

It's kind of like body odor. It isn't ok in the US. I have been to many countries where people stink and women have hairy arms and legs. It's unacceptable in the US.

Yes, I'm American. I am a professional and I am also very attractive. Sometimes I shave my legs and armpits and sometimes I do not, even in the summer! No one tells me what I should or should do and I have never felt ridiculed or ashamed of either choice. So guess what, it IS acceptable, despite what you and your pearl clutching friends may think.

We are sending terribly damaging messages to our daughters when we tell them, at the age of NINE, that their bodies are not acceptable the way they are.

Does your DH find your hairy armpits attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure he does. Many men do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

Different poster here. Are you an American woman? Do you walk around with hairy armpits and hairy legs?

It's kind of like body odor. It isn't ok in the US. I have been to many countries where people stink and women have hairy arms and legs. It's unacceptable in the US.

Yes, I'm American. I am a professional and I am also very attractive. Sometimes I shave my legs and armpits and sometimes I do not, even in the summer! No one tells me what I should or should do and I have never felt ridiculed or ashamed of either choice. So guess what, it IS acceptable, despite what you and your pearl clutching friends may think.

We are sending terribly damaging messages to our daughters when we tell them, at the age of NINE, that their bodies are not acceptable the way they are.

Does your DH find your hairy armpits attractive?

I'm sorry…….but are you ACTUALLY advocating that a 9 year old shave herself to make her more attractive to MEN?

Because that is what your post says. This post is about a NINE year old girl and you make it about sexual attractiveness? Sicko.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I will be the lone dissent - my daughter started shaving armpits at age 9. I did go through the American Girl doll book and went through the various sections on hygiene. Then I gave her shaving cream and a razor and showed her how to do it. It was simple, painless and a great improvement in her appearance. She didn't ask - bc I didn't think she knew to ask.

Every kid is different, and I knew my daughter needed to shave.

You are seriously f***ing kidding, right? She is/was NINE. Do you know why she didn't ask you? Because she had not reason to be ashamed of her natural, normal body!!! Way to ruin that nice and early.

Please, work out your own self image issues before your daughter gets any older, you are already doing some serious damage.

Different poster here. Are you an American woman? Do you walk around with hairy armpits and hairy legs?

It's kind of like body odor. It isn't ok in the US. I have been to many countries where people stink and women have hairy arms and legs. It's unacceptable in the US.

Yes, I'm American. I am a professional and I am also very attractive. Sometimes I shave my legs and armpits and sometimes I do not, even in the summer! No one tells me what I should or should do and I have never felt ridiculed or ashamed of either choice. So guess what, it IS acceptable, despite what you and your pearl clutching friends may think.

We are sending terribly damaging messages to our daughters when we tell them, at the age of NINE, that their bodies are not acceptable the way they are.

Does your DH find your hairy armpits attractive?

I'm sorry…….but are you ACTUALLY advocating that a 9 year old shave herself to make her more attractive to MEN?

Because that is what your post says. This post is about a NINE year old girl and you make it about sexual attractiveness? Sicko.

LOL No, I was trying to save the OP's DD some grief. Fine, let her be hairy. Maybe she won't hear for years. Maybe people will snicker behind her back. I personally think when I see a hairy unibrow or mustache on a little girl, it looks ugly. You can keep your unibrows, mustaches, hairy armpits and legs. I have boys. If I had a girl, I would teach her to properly groom herself.

[Anonymous]

Thank GOD you don't have daughters.

Have fun playing out your issues with your sons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank GOD you don't have daughters.

Have fun playing out your issues with your sons.

I don't have issues. I was lucky to be born with good genes. I'm naturally thin and not very hairy. Have fun with your hairy girls.