Are girls meaner this era than previous years?

[Anonymous]

Just overall increase in rudeness and isolation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

Wut?

Basically when in doubt blame the liberal media. Or obama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bully behavior has definitely increased in younger girls. Friends with pre-schoolers and K-1 are complaining a lot about Queen Bees and Mean Girls their kids are encountering.

I think it's a pretty normal yet unpleasant phase that kids have to work through. They discover relational agreesion.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it has necessarily increased. I do think, though, that kids aren't raised to deal with it as good as they used to be. When I was in school my parents always taught me to fight back (proverbially) and stick up for myself. Nowadays, it's cry about it, every single slight is "bullying," kids need safe spaces, blah blah blah. When I was in school (which really wasn't terribly long ago) you had it out with the mean girl. Then you moved on. Our kids aren't taught to stick up for themselves as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

What? Why is it "liberal media"? Do you know that pageants are most prevalent in conservative communities? Talk about sexualizing little girls:



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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bully behavior has definitely increased in younger girls. Friends with pre-schoolers and K-1 are complaining a lot about Queen Bees and Mean Girls their kids are encountering.

I think it's a pretty normal yet unpleasant phase that kids have to work through. They discover relational agreesion.

But they shouldn't be working through it alone -- the adults in their lives, including teachers, should be teaching them how to interact kindly with others.

I wonder if the increased academic expectations at younger ages, including more pressure for everyone to be reading by the end of kindergarten, eliminates time to teach social emotional skills, which allows mean girl behavior to go unchecked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

Wut?

Basically when in doubt blame the liberal media. Or obama.

I don't know. PP sounds like one off those people who are frequently wrong but rarely in doubt. They're also known as "conservatives."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bully behavior has definitely increased in younger girls. Friends with pre-schoolers and K-1 are complaining a lot about Queen Bees and Mean Girls their kids are encountering.

I think it's a pretty normal yet unpleasant phase that kids have to work through. They discover relational agreesion.

Did you come over from the Beauvoir thread? The only other place I have ever seen the phrase "relational aggression" used.

[Anonymous]

When I was in 3rd grade more than 30 years ago, there was plenty of mean girl stuff going on.

OP -- I'm curious to know what types of behaviors your DD is describing to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

This is half the problem.

The other half is social media.

There is no escape for the bullied kids. There is no face to face reaction to the bullying, so it is far easier for girls to hurt one another.

I am so happy that I ended up with all boys

I would not want to raise a girl these days.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

Don't you know that mean girls are Obama's fault, or has Fox News not picked up that story yet?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:High school teacher PP here. I do want to add I think social media has helped with awareness with kids. I only graduated in 2003 so not terribly long ago but even then it was common to insult each other by using fag, retard, etc. Kids now do NOT use those words because social acceptance has come so far. They don't think their peers with disabilities are idiots or contemptible nor do they think that of their LGBT peers. That is one thing that is so much better nowadays- they are much, much more understanding of and loving toward differences and identities.

I still hear these words or their equivalents in the halls of my middle school along with slurs against immigrants, religious minorities, and poor students. This is an affluent public school in MoCo. The big thing last year was boys calling each other "suspect" as a synonym for gay tendencies. Already this year, one boy called another a "SPED". It's only the first week!

Well now middle schoolers are just barbarians, we all know that. Give them a few years, they'll mature into humans. Most of them.

Many middle school boys are out of control to each other. I wish parents and schools would teach and insist on better behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

Don't you know that mean girls are Obama's fault, or has Fox News not picked up that story yet?

actually msnbc did just the article a few weeks back. Obama certainly hasn't helped, like most things in the last 7+ years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems that girls are under a lot more pressure due to sexualization at a much younger age than in previous generations. I imagine this has a lot to do with what you're observing.

Why do we do this to our girls - or why do we let the liberal media do this to our girls?

Don't you know that mean girls are Obama's fault, or has Fox News not picked up that story yet?

actually msnbc did just the article a few weeks back. Obama certainly hasn't helped, like most things in the last 7+ years.

Have you and other parents lobbied him for help? Because I feel pretty sure that any executive order he had issued regarding your kids, you would have fought tooth and nail.

[Anonymous]

I think it was far worse before anti-bullying campaigns became popular. If anything, I think girls are nicer today.