Fiancé flicked off a driver

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this possibly a big deal? He got aggravated at a driver and gave them the finger? Am I missing something?

Seriously! I'm an unviolent woman and I do this from time to time. DC traffic can make the best of us crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would find very disturbing, OP. A man doing that to a woman is just really uncalled for. Awful.

But don't women want to be treated as equals?

Why is it that men will complain about fixing the wage gap or representation in congress but when it comes to violence they think things should be totally equal? Hmmmmmmmmmm if only I could think of a reason....

it's considered "violence"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would find very disturbing, OP. A man doing that to a woman is just really uncalled for. Awful.

But don't women want to be treated as equals?

Why is it that men will complain about fixing the wage gap or representation in congress but when it comes to violence they think things should be totally equal? Hmmmmmmmmmm if only I could think of a reason....

it's considered "violence"?

Aggression, at a minimum.

[Anonymous]

This thread really puts all the "omg, that's abuse!!!" advice into perspective. LOL. The relationship forum is full of the most miserable people in the world and they take joy in finding dealbreakers in everyone's relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread really puts all the "omg, that's abuse!!!" advice into perspective. LOL. The relationship forum is full of the most miserable people in the world and they take joy in finding dealbreakers in everyone's relationships.

LOL. Seriously. What's flipping off strangers? That's NORMAL. Everyone does it. The other day this old lady tried to cut in front of me in the grocery store and I screamed in her face and threw my frozen ham at her. HELLO. That's just everyday behavior. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

FLIPPED. Flipped off.

Who says "flicked"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I'm a very calm, mellow person and always tell DH not to aggravate people on other cars because you never know who's got a gun, etc. But, even I have lost my cool and flicked off/honked my horn at someone who was being a colossal jerk on the road. It's not a huge deal, unless it's a pattern or you're picking up on other red flags about your fiancé. Are there other things going on?

+1000000

DH never ever ever loses his cool in traffic; he grew up in Detroit where honking or giving someone the finger might land you dead.

Meanwhile everyone who knows me would say I'm the most mellow, easy-going person. I absolutely have honked and flipped people off - not often, but it has happened. Especially when I'm stressed about something else, like many of us often are.

Unless he has other anger or rage issues I don't understand why this was even posted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I'm a very calm, mellow person and always tell DH not to aggravate people on other cars because you never know who's got a gun, etc. But, even I have lost my cool and flicked off/honked my horn at someone who was being a colossal jerk on the road. It's not a huge deal, unless it's a pattern or you're picking up on other red flags about your fiancé. Are there other things going on?

+1000000

DH never ever ever loses his cool in traffic; he grew up in Detroit where honking or giving someone the finger might land you dead.

Meanwhile everyone who knows me would say I'm the most mellow, easy-going person. I absolutely have honked and flipped people off - not often, but it has happened. Especially when I'm stressed about something else, like many of us often are.

Unless he has other anger or rage issues I don't understand why this was even posted.

Agree. What the real problem OP?

[Anonymous]

^What's the real problem OP?

[Anonymous]

NBD

[Anonymous]

I am assuming that you have been dating this man for a couple of years if you are engaged. If this is the first time you've seen him do this over a period of years, it is really not a big deal.

Even if he does it every once in awhile, it's still not really a big deal IMO. We all get impatient sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Who the hell cares? This is a problem for you? Let him go because he deserves someone that isn't a complete psycho. Yes. YOU are the psycho here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would find very disturbing, OP. A man doing that to a woman is just really uncalled for. Awful.

But don't women want to be treated as equals?

Why is it that men will complain about fixing the wage gap or representation in congress but when it comes to violence they think things should be totally equal? Hmmmmmmmmmm if only I could think of a reason....

I'm not a man and I don't get what being a man or a woman has to do with anything in this situation.

[Anonymous]

I would flick someone off too if they were honking at me for no reason. They deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would flick someone off too if they were honking at me for no reason. They deserve it.

It wasn't for no reason?