Walking Away From Someone Who Is 80% Great But Not The One

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried just having fun, but then I fell for him. We've been off and on (mostly on) for over a year. It's time to end it. He doesn't think it is long term, either, but I don't think he loves me. I'll be the one more hurt.

Op you're an FWB to this guy. Why pretend otherwise?

[Anonymous]

Rip the bandaid off, pull up your panties, cry, and move on. Stop thinking, just do what you need to do and find you list self-esteem. It's much more attractive that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try not to let him knock you up before you dump him.

If he did, I would just take care of it. Neither of us wants another kid. My question was is there any way of dealing with the hurt of the break up? It's going to hurt like hell. So far, the answers have been, "No, break ups just suck," and "Focus on the bad and be glad you are getting out now instead of ten years from now." Any other tips?

You just have to work through the pain. And not let their pain stop you. I'm married because I couldn't break up effectively. Probably will be until he or I dies.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that people on DCUM are prone to encouraging divorces and breakups. It's easy to say "girl, you can do so much better!" when it's someone else's life.