Why do people insist on visiting the week we get home from the hospital?

[Anonymous]

When my brother had his first, I didn't have a lot of friends with kids. But I also was self aware enough to know that I needed to get my SIL's ok before I went to visit (I had to stay with them). I let her know I was super excited and eager to visit, but that we'd plan it after the baby was born. After the baby was born, I reached out again, just seeing how she felt, and she was really happy to have me come about 3 weeks in. I went and was helpful, cooked some food, and entertained myself.

Your DH is the problem here. He needs to ask her to wait to plan any visits until you are settled at home and can think about having people come.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. You have a husband problem, not an in-law problem. He needs to get his priorities in order. He clearly hasn't figured it out on his own, so you need to spell it out for his clearly with all the gory details like cracked nipples, bleeding, etc. And preferably before you add the newborn into the mix.