I'm pretty sure I'm gay

[Anonymous]

Whitman Walker has a peer lef support group for women coming out of marriage (from men) that is very helpful.

https://www.whitman-walker.org/service/behavioral/peer-support-groups/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've always thought of myself as bi, but I think I've been fooling myself this whole time.

Now I'm married and have kids and I absolutely love my family. But I'm so gay.

Do you think you need both experiences? If you leave your marraige and end up at a later date in another marriage to a woman, do think you will start having the same feelings eventually? Is it monogamy that is really the issue? Many couples go through a boredom type of phase too- do you think it may be that?

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Anonymous wrote:I just realized at 35 that I am gay, I'm a women married to a man (well separated and getting divorced) with 2 small children
After finally coming to this and telling my spouse I feel a huge weight has been lifted, I'm happier than I have been in years. My life is in total chaos but amongst the chaos I am at peace with myself. I have never felt so good
It's a personal choice how you handle this....a friend said to me "sometimes you have to make a leap even if you don't know what will happen when you fall" I feel like my kids will be better off with a happy mother even if it means living in a separate house from their father, we are still friends and will co parent the best we can

Just curious...are you really gay, or bisexual? I've always wondered how a "gay" person could marry a person of the opposite sex and be aroused enough to make kids and still be totally gay, unless they were seriously in denial/faking it. Wouldn't a person in this situation most likely be somewhere in the spectrum between gay and straight (i.e. bisexual)?

pregnancy doesn't require arousal...

Not for women, anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:You aren't the only one. What would you be happy with, though? Is it worth leaving your family? Open relationship? Is just admitting it enough?

I'm not sure. I don't think I know the answer to any of your questions. I guess admitting it to myself is already overwhelming enough right now. I don't know what to do with this information just yet.

Did your husband know you were bisexual or did he not have any idea at all? A good LGBT counselor might be able to help you sort it out. I'm sorry, OP. I've been in a similar situation and I know it is tough and overwhelming.

How do you feel about your husband as a person, friend, and parent? How do you feel about him in a romantic or sexual way? How important is sex to you? Based on your previous experience with women, is it worth the price of divorce? Or would you and your husband consider having an open marriage? Dating and finding someone after divorce probably won't be easy. I think if I (a lesbian) suddenly wasn't attracted to my awesome wife and wanted dudes, I would put up with meh sex with DW or no sex until the kids were out of the house. Good luck figuring out the right choice for you.

[Anonymous]

I'm bi, married, and I love being married to my husband. He knew when we were dating that I am bi, and he doesn't mind at all. I've had plenty of experiences with women, though, so I don't feel that I am missing out on anything. Been there, done that, enjoyed it, moved on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP again, just realized I didn't mention I'm a woman.

This is my big fear OP!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, just realized I didn't mention I'm a woman.

This is my big fear OP!

I meant... that this same scenario will happen to me!

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Are you more attracted to men or women? When it comes to oral sex which gender do you want to give more to?

Really? Are you getting off on this or what?

No... Not getting off on this. I was just wondering what she felt. Oral sex is fun if you are attracted to the person that you are "giving" it to.. But it is I fun chore is you are not attracted to the receiving person. I am a male and I would have no problem giving oral to a female but I have no desire to put a penis in my mouth.. So if you look at the Kensey scale... I am on one side. The OP might not be on one side. She might in the middle..

Honestly, I would be surprised if straight girls even like giving blowjobs. Sorry dudes, penises are gross. My straight friends are always joking about it.

As a bi woman, there is no question at all- eating out is about 10000000000 times better than giving a blowjob. No contest