Withholding annual fund donation?

[Anonymous]

We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

[Anonymous]

No one is obligated to donate to their school. No one. We pay so much and are not on Financial Aid and are not subsidized by a company or foreign government, as many at our school are, that we are just fine without donating.

No school should strong arm parents to donate. There are the Huge Patrons of schools--all of our schools have them, the $100,000 donors on up--and schools really work hard to keep those patrons, as they should.
The rest is a choice, if you can give, you give.

[Anonymous]

It's a community. If you don't feel a sense of commitment to your community that you can cough up a few extra dollars to support the cause then perhaps you shouldn't be a part of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

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I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a community. If you don't feel a sense of commitment to your community that you can cough up a few extra dollars to support the cause then perhaps you shouldn't be a part of it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

I agree with you. But, please consider donating $10 so that you can be counted in the participation rate. That rate helps with the schools ranking and can be a deciding factor for grants and admissions.

[Anonymous]

We have always donated. However, we do know a family this year that said they wouldn't give until admissions were decided on their youngest. He didn't get in and they're proudly telling people that they didn't give to the fund this year. I don't think they will be at the school much longer. I don't know them well but find the whole thing odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always donated. However, we do know a family this year that said they wouldn't give until admissions were decided on their youngest. He didn't get in and they're proudly telling people that they didn't give to the fund this year. I don't think they will be at the school much longer. I don't know them well but find the whole thing odd.

You are part of an community who selectively picks and chooses who is eligible for participation in your community. At the basest level, your "community" is all conditional on a monetary transaction. But you find it "odd" for someone to question the mechanism of the "community" building and create
An additional condition to their contribution? I don't find that odd at all, I find it odd that you think it's Not about money. It's all about money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

The family that I know on FA is t needy, they live in A really good public school District, but want to send their kid to private because they don't like public schools and they don't make a lot of money in their professions. Certainly not needy. They live in a really fancy zip code (though in an apartment) and have three kids. They went to private themselves, but chose low paying professions, and now they are using the financial aid Dollars that you think are going to "needy" people. They are smart and nice people, but not "needy." They had every opportunity in the world, but chose low paying professions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

The family that I know on FA is t needy, they live in A really good public school District, but want to send their kid to private because they don't like public schools and they don't make a lot of money in their professions. Certainly not needy. They live in a really fancy zip code (though in an apartment) and have three kids. They went to private themselves, but chose low paying professions, and now they are using the financial aid Dollars that you think are going to "needy" people. They are smart and nice people, but not "needy." They had every opportunity in the world, but chose low paying professions.

Low paying professions like teaching. How dare they apply for FA?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

The family that I know on FA is t needy, they live in A really good public school District, but want to send their kid to private because they don't like public schools and they don't make a lot of money in their professions. Certainly not needy. They live in a really fancy zip code (though in an apartment) and have three kids. They went to private themselves, but chose low paying professions, and now they are using the financial aid Dollars that you think are going to "needy" people. They are smart and nice people, but not "needy." They had every opportunity in the world, but chose low paying professions.

Are you seriously kidding me? So who exactly should do low paying professions? Only the uneducated. You are a money chasing snob that has no clue about how the real world works! Someone has to be willing to be teachers, police officers, firemen, social workers and work for public interest jobs and I darn sure prefer that it be educated people who just aren't doing a job for money!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

The family that I know on FA is t needy, they live in A really good public school District, but want to send their kid to private because they don't like public schools and they don't make a lot of money in their professions. Certainly not needy. They live in a really fancy zip code (though in an apartment) and have three kids. They went to private themselves, but chose low paying professions, and now they are using the financial aid Dollars that you think are going to "needy" people. They are smart and nice people, but not "needy." They had every opportunity in the world, but chose low paying professions.

Are you seriously kidding me? So who exactly should do low paying professions? Only the uneducated. You are a money chasing snob that has no clue about how the real world works! Someone has to be willing to be teachers, police officers, firemen, social workers and work for public interest jobs and I darn sure prefer that it be educated people who just aren't doing a job for money!

I define "needy" as needs an opportunity, needs a good school because their zoned school is a war zone, needs a chance because no one ever gave it to them. Private schools offering FA in lieu of a living wage is not providing "needy" families opportunity, it's incentive for people to work there. If private schools refocused their energies and funding away from buildings and administrative staff To rewarding good teaching, Then the private school faculty and staff wouldn't be sucking away FA that could be proving truly needy kids, good educations. It's a screwy system if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have given every year, but now that I realize that it goes for FA, I am not enthused. We are full pay on a government salary, and apparently FA is going to folks making more than we do. I would rather give money to a charity.

+1
I was all for it and did my part when I thought it covered the gap between tuition and actual costs. I thought the school action funded FA. We are same as above and making sacrifices to go independant so it is frustrating when I find out someone is on FA (they shared this info it is not gossip) and has a 1+ million dollar house and goes on multiple vacations every year. I would rather spend my charitable contributions elsewhere.

I am certain that the case described above is an exception and not the rule. Further, you should understand that the draw from endowments at these schools often offsets some of the cost that full fee paying parents are covering. And the endowments only exist because of the generosity of others. So before you get high and mighty about not contributing to FA, remember that most families that receive are actually needy and you are also the beneficiary of the largess of others.

The family that I know on FA is t needy, they live in A really good public school District, but want to send their kid to private because they don't like public schools and they don't make a lot of money in their professions. Certainly not needy. They live in a really fancy zip code (though in an apartment) and have three kids. They went to private themselves, but chose low paying professions, and now they are using the financial aid Dollars that you think are going to "needy" people. They are smart and nice people, but not "needy." They had every opportunity in the world, but chose low paying professions.

Are you seriously kidding me? So who exactly should do low paying professions? Only the uneducated. You are a money chasing snob that has no clue about how the real world works! Someone has to be willing to be teachers, police officers, firemen, social workers and work for public interest jobs and I darn sure prefer that it be educated people who just aren't doing a job for money!

I define "needy" as needs an opportunity, needs a good school because their zoned school is a war zone, needs a chance because no one ever gave it to them. Private schools offering FA in lieu of a living wage is not providing "needy" families opportunity, it's incentive for people to work there. If private schools refocused their energies and funding away from buildings and administrative staff To rewarding good teaching, Then the private school faculty and staff wouldn't be sucking away FA that could be proving truly needy kids, good educations. It's a screwy system if you ask me.

You are so clueless. Most of the FA dollars does not go to children of teachers and staff. How you choose to define "needy" has absolutely nothing to do with "need-based." This idea that to qualify for need-based one must be improvised is utterly ridiculous. Please tell me, how many improvised kids do you really think are applying to these schools? Get your head out of la-la land. Thank God these schools don't leave how to manage their budgets to the clueless. Nothing you have said makes an ounce of sense.

[Anonymous]

You should think of the annual fund, even if only a few hundred dollars, as an extension of tuition. Basically an obligation---but unlike tuition, it's tax deductible!