Ladies: Would you have sex more often

[Anonymous]

Define good shape. If he looks like a Football, no thanks! I'm turned off by all that bulkiness. If he is fit like a professional soccer player, HELL YEAH! Any time anyplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory is that the women saying they would have more sex with their husbands if they suddenly got themselves in shape are actually picturing other men in their minds. It's not that the only thing keeping them from throwing themselves at their husbands is 20 extra lbs and some love handles. It's that they are bored with hubby and want some strange.

Yes, that's a gross oversimplification. The weight is an excuse. If your husbands were ripped and model hot, you'd find some other reason to avoid sex with them. Try looking inward to find out why the passion is dwindling in your marriage.

because if i'm supposed to be sleeping with someone who only pays attention to me when he wants to get laid, he might as well have a nice body.

Do you pay attention to him? Not "pay attention to me!" attention, but actually pay attention in a way that's about HIM not YOU.

[Anonymous]

DH is far too selfish and lazy to take the effort to get really fit and in good shape.

[Anonymous]

I am absolutely not attracted to him as he is now. But I doubt he could change that. What made me interested in sex again was a new man.

It is biology, people. Women get bored after about 2-5 years and then we have 45 years of hell with the same man and we blame it on chores, tired, out of shape husbands when in fact, it is just simple biology.

Women are NOT MEANT TO BE WITH ONE MAN their whole lives.

The problem is that men make fine fathers. And we care about our kids. And also that we become old hags who can't have more kids so if we swapped every 5 years ... we'd be single by the time we were 50, tops. For the rest of our lives.

Which sucks.

So. Men. You can't do anything about it except be the other man. Because as the other man you are fucking HOT. So very attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am absolutely not attracted to him as he is now. But I doubt he could change that. What made me interested in sex again was a new man.

It is biology, people. Women get bored after about 2-5 years and then we have 45 years of hell with the same man and we blame it on chores, tired, out of shape husbands when in fact, it is just simple biology.

Women are NOT MEANT TO BE WITH ONE MAN their whole lives.

The problem is that men make fine fathers. And we care about our kids. And also that we become old hags who can't have more kids so if we swapped every 5 years ... we'd be single by the time we were 50, tops. For the rest of our lives.

Which sucks.

So. Men. You can't do anything about it except be the other man. Because as the other man you are fucking HOT. So very attractive.

So you'd be okay with your DH being the other man for some other woman?

[Anonymous]

Define more often. Right now its 2-3x a month. If he was in better shape, maybe once per week?

[Anonymous]

Idk. My DH looks like a greek statue and it does make me want to have sex with him. But he's always been an athlete, so I really don't notice or focus on it.

When he does the dishes though, I want to jump his bones!

[Anonymous]

Well, I didn't actually say that. And I don't know how I'd react to that reality. In theory, it sounds like a great system to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I didn't actually say that. And I don't know how I'd react to that reality. In theory, it sounds like a great system to me.

Perhaps you should have a talk with DH. Maybe you'll find he's open to some sort of mutually beneficial arrangement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I didn't actually say that. And I don't know how I'd react to that reality. In theory, it sounds like a great system to me.

Perhaps you should have a talk with DH. Maybe you'll find he's open to some sort of mutually beneficial arrangement.

We talked about it. He said no thanks.

[Anonymous]

My husband is in great shape and always has been. We've had extremely dry spells and extremely...not-dry spells (these days, for example). It's all emotional for me.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

If I trusted that he wasn't sleeping with any other women, YES!

[Anonymous]

I got in better shape. We didn't have more sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got in better shape. We didn't have more sex.

THIS is what I think would happen for 99% of the women who have said yes.