Jealous of sister's boyfriend

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Anonymous wrote:No one has ever done that for me. I've had to fight and scream and cry to get get an ex BF to even get me flowers. For my Valentines dates I usually just get a dinner out if I'm lucky.

I feel really bummed and honestly jealous. I deserve to be treated well too.

Maybe the fighting and screaming is part of your problem? Yes, you deserve to be treated well, but you also reap what you sow.

I'm referencing an incident where a BF never got me flowers or chocolates after a year of dating. I'd casually mention wanting flowers to explicitly and nicely saying, " honey I'd love it if you surprised me with pink flowers."

Nothing.

I then felt sorry for myself and cried.

Yes. She certainly is more conventionally attractive. Skinny drake but big boobs, nice head of thick Kate Middleton hair and gorgeous smile. She looks like a movie star and turns heads when she enters rooms. She is also very popular and friendly. Her BF is obviously pretty wealthy since he spent a lot on her for Christmas too. His family is very well to do.

I'm not ugly but I'm pretty plain and pretty old now at 30. Even at my prime I did not receive the attention she did and the only guys who would approach me were loser-ish with personality or social issues. They were also never this rich.

I can't help but feel shitty since she's obviously a better catch than me and so gets attention, and the right kind from better quality guys.

is your sister hotter, more feminine, and sweeter than you are?

I'm the guy that asked if your sister was hotter - your answer tells me that you are a troll.

The 'pretty old now at 30' is BS - and this coming from a guy.

Too true! A guy who may "identify" as female but only in 1950s stereotypes.

How old are you, really, OP? 65?

You guys are crazy. Women have a pretty accurate assessment of their beauty.

[Anonymous]

You need to pick better guys BUT you also need to reevaluate what being treated "right" means. Gifts are always great but there are much more important aspects to a relationship. Find out how you want to be treated and look for men that treat you that way.

[Anonymous]

Well if you are fighting and screaming to "get someone" to do something for you, I think the problem is with you. You sound like not a catch to put it mildly.

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I have a good friend with 2 beautiful daughters and 1 "plain" daughter... who is BTW beautiful.

You have self esteem issues and you will never think you deserve what your sister deserves. You send that signal out, that is why.

You should go to therapy for this.

[Anonymous]

OP, everyone "peaks" at some point in their life in terms of beauty/success/happiness. My mom always told me -- and she's totally right -- you don't want to peak too early, because it's all downhill from there. Maybe your sister is peaking at 25 (who knows, and honestly who cares) but it sounds like you haven't peaked yet! Take heart. The people who are popular and successful in their teens and 20s don't always become the people who are popular and successful in their 30s and 40s. You have decades of life ahead of you to find the right partner and have a happy life. As you get older you will begin to understand that measuring yourself against others is a recipe for misery. Don't worry about your sister and her life- focus on yours.

[Anonymous]

Classic self esteem issues on your part, OP. Your sister is probably the golden child in your family. Seen this over and over. I would get into therapy.

[Anonymous]

First of all OP, stop entertaining poor men. If it's very obvious they have nothing going for themselves, don't even stop to talk.

2nd, what do you look like physically and how do you dress?

3rd, you need to be more confident in yourself. Spend some time alone to figure out who you are and what you enjoy doing.