Have you ever told someone to stay away from your SO?

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP: it is your husband's job to tell her to back off. Now if you all were at a social event and she did it right in front of your face, I would perhaps consider saying something or at least hinting that he was with you. I hate women that go over after other people's husbands or SOs. I think it is a natural response to want to say something, but in this case your husband needs to handle it.

[Anonymous]

OK OKOK OK I SAID I WONT. Lol i get it! I wouldve thought someone here wouldve done it once lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I agree with PP: it is your husband's job to tell her to back off. Now if you all were at a social event and she did it right in front of your face, I would perhaps consider saying something or at least hinting that he was with you. I hate women that go over after other people's husbands or SOs. I think it is a natural response to want to say something, but in this case your husband needs to handle it.

Op here. Yes definitely agree with that. If in person I would for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. But a woman once reached out to me and asked how I knew her husband, who is a facebook friend who I haven't seen in real life since I was about 16, and we don't communicate. When I told her that we were friends for a bit in high school from some trips that I had visiting a mutual friend (he lives in another state), she told me to stay the hell away and made him defriend me. It was crazy! I now think that she is absolutely insane and that their relationship must be terrible. Had I actually wanted to have an affair with him (which of course I didn't), I would have known it would be easy to do after that.

Lol ok I'm not that crazy and not talking about that kind of situation at all no worries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

Then your husband should do it, not you. If you do it, it will look like you have a terrible relationship and don't trust him.

Yea thats true thats whats stopped me

[Anonymous]

OP, I would too. It would be funny to hear if anyone actually did it. I can certainly appreciate wanting to do it myself on occasion, but your SO needs to learn to do it too. At least you know he is willing to stick up for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to control who's around your SO is abusive. If it was a man considering it, there would be outrage here.

Im not trying to control. Im trying to get a classless, inappropriate slut to stop trying to hang out with my boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would too. It would be funny to hear if anyone actually did it. I can certainly appreciate wanting to do it myself on occasion, but your SO needs to learn to do it too. At least you know he is willing to stick up for the relationship.

Thats true. I'll talk to him more. He knows I can't stand her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trying to control who's around your SO is abusive. If it was a man considering it, there would be outrage here.

Im not trying to control. Im trying to get a classless, inappropriate slut to stop trying to hang out with my boyfriend

That's your boyfriend's job. If he's unwilling to do it, your issue is with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would too. It would be funny to hear if anyone actually did it. I can certainly appreciate wanting to do it myself on occasion, but your SO needs to learn to do it too. At least you know he is willing to stick up for the relationship.

Thats true. I'll talk to him more. He knows I can't stand her.[/quote

Sorry, that's on him, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. But a woman once reached out to me and asked how I knew her husband, who is a facebook friend who I haven't seen in real life since I was about 16, and we don't communicate. When I told her that we were friends for a bit in high school from some trips that I had visiting a mutual friend (he lives in another state), she told me to stay the hell away and made him defriend me. It was crazy! I now think that she is absolutely insane and that their relationship must be terrible. Had I actually wanted to have an affair with him (which of course I didn't), I would have known it would be easy to do after that.

This happened to a friend of mine too. The guy was barely a friend, she waited tables with him 10 years earlier. His wife messaged her accusing of cheating with her husband and all this crazy shit. The dude was NOT a catch at all, my friend was offended his wife thought she'd even go for him. She unfriended and blocked them all. B*tches be crazy sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trying to control who's around your SO is abusive. If it was a man considering it, there would be outrage here.

Im not trying to control. Im trying to get a classless, inappropriate slut to stop trying to hang out with my boyfriend

Yeah, like I said, it's abusive.

[Anonymous]

I once worked with a guy whose wife approached several single female coworkers during the Christmas party and told them to stay away from her husband. One of the coworkers had brought a female friend as her plus one, and the female friend was also told off.

The wife looked crazy, and there was a lot of gossip about her husband after that.

[Anonymous]

My Ap's wife contacted me long after I had stopped sleeping with him. She threatened to bring her kid to my house... I then fucked him out of spite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once worked with a guy whose wife approached several single female coworkers during the Christmas party and told them to stay away from her husband. One of the coworkers had brought a female friend as her plus one, and the female friend was also told off.

The wife looked crazy, and there was a lot of gossip about her husband after that.

In theory, I can understand there may be situations where a person would have a legitimate reason to tell another person to stay away from their SO. I can't think of any (maybe medical incapacitation?) but I'm sure there are times when this may be a valid reaction.

In reality, the only times I've heard of this happening in real life, it's never been justified behavior. In the worst case, it was the mistress calling the man's wife (and the mother of his children) to "stay away from her man" right before Christmas. When he was still living at home with his wife and children. And the wife had no idea about the affair prior to the phone call. In the other cases, the women doing the warning (and it was always women doing this) were going after women that had no interest whatsoever in their men.