Have you ever told someone to stay away from your SO?

[Anonymous]

Ok Ok thank you everyone this is a big resounding unanimous NO lol thanks! I will not!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. If I felt like I had to tell the other woman to stay away, I'd know that I can't trust the guy. I won't be with someone I can't trust.

+1

+2.

Also, I believe in holding the person responsible that actually has an obligation to me: my SO. My DH and I are the ones that said our vows and promised to be faithful so it's on us to uphold them. It's not the responsibility of the "other woman" to keep him faithful, it's on him.

+3

Not to mention, I would feel like such a soap-opera cliche. People that do that probably think they are being tough, but they always just look so stupid.

[Anonymous]

No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

[Anonymous]

Imagine being told this. What would your reaction be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine being told this. What would your reaction be?

I'd back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine being told this. What would your reaction be?

That I was dealing with a psycho and that my life might be in danger. Restraining order anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imagine being told this. What would your reaction be?

I'd back off.

Really? I doubt it.

I would tell all my friends "OMG WTF how crazy is this bitch" because I would never hit on a taken man.

But if I were the type to hit on a taken man, I would probably delight in her being riled up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

How about:

Changing your phone number(s)?
Blocking?
Changing your social patterns?
Your husband setting limits and boundaries with people?
Contacting the police if someone's behavior is clearly inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

She doesn't sound like the type to respond the way you want her to, really, stop and put yourself in her shoes a second.

[Anonymous]

No. But a woman once reached out to me and asked how I knew her husband, who is a facebook friend who I haven't seen in real life since I was about 16, and we don't communicate. When I told her that we were friends for a bit in high school from some trips that I had visiting a mutual friend (he lives in another state), she told me to stay the hell away and made him defriend me. It was crazy! I now think that she is absolutely insane and that their relationship must be terrible. Had I actually wanted to have an affair with him (which of course I didn't), I would have known it would be easy to do after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

Then your husband should do it, not you. If you do it, it will look like you have a terrible relationship and don't trust him.

[Anonymous]

No. And I had a woman hit on him in front of me. He handled himself well. I wouldn't be with him if I felt I needed to worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, of course not. I trust my husband. A woman was throwing herself at him via Facebook, he showed me the crazy, we had a good laugh over it and felt kind of sorry for her and moved on.

He is a big boy and it is his responsibility not to cheat on me. Why on earth would I approach another woman about him?

Not saying anything about my SO not being faithful or trustworthy. I'm talking about a desperate, inappropriate female who needs to be told to back off

Then your husband should do it, not you. If you do it, it will look like you have a terrible relationship and don't trust him.

Your husband should be telling her to back off. And blocking her calls and texts and emails and FB posts and whatever else. Threatening her is only going to add to the crazy. If your SO is faithful and trustworthy, then you should not need to be talking to this woman at all, unless she approaches you directly.

[Anonymous]

Trying to control who's around your SO is abusive. If it was a man considering it, there would be outrage here.