Regret believing that a vasectomy would equal a higher level of respect in a marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well dude if you stayed with her after she cheated on you, no wonder she doesn't respect you. That's pretty much the ultimate demonstration of Low Market Value.

That's kind of blame the victim, she's the low life who owns that imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well dude if you stayed with her after she cheated on you, no wonder she doesn't respect you. That's pretty much the ultimate demonstration of Low Market Value.

That's kind of blame the victim, she's the low life who owns that imo.

Unfortunately, it's also true. The more you let someone walk all over you, the less they will respect you. Eventually they will come to despise you for letting them treat you like shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a vasectomy back in 2003, solely to relieve my wife of the burden of birth control and associated female side effects. We both are in good physical condition as we enter our fifties. Sex is okay, but rather infrequent (once a month), with age related female libido loss to blame.

My wife has cheated on me a few times over the past 5 years. Not sure if she will ever stop?

Guilt would wreck me if I were to cheat on her.

I regret thinking that a vasectomy would increase her respect level for me and our marriage.

#1 birth control was actually never your wife's burden, had you been an equal participant the whole time, is it was also your burden
#2 getting a vasectomy to increase her respect was stupid

[Anonymous]

I recall reading on an MRA site that chicks' bodies can just tell if you are shooting blanks. Their bodies crave a real man's sperm. Because evolutionary psychology. So they'll stop having sex with your non-baby producing waste-of-time semen and seek out the real thing.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. Do men not understand that in these times they are solely responsible for their own birth control whether dating, or married? I don't care if the woman says she's on birth control, takes it sporadically, or doesn't. It's like seat belts you do it for your own protection. Family court garnishes a lot of guys checks who claim SHE said she was on birth control. I guess it's that pass the buck thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recall reading on an MRA site that chicks' bodies can just tell if you are shooting blanks. Their bodies crave a real man's sperm. Because evolutionary psychology. So they'll stop having sex with your non-baby producing waste-of-time semen and seek out the real thing.

Bahahah, you must have read that in GQ or Playboy. That was funny, thanks.

[Anonymous]

So she cheated on you a few times over the last five years and you thought that getting snipped would increase her respect for you? Dude, she has zero respect for you. None.

You should have kicked her ass to the curb after cheating episode #1. She probably still wouldn't respect you but at least by now you'd have had a chance to find someone else who does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. Do men not understand that in these times they are solely responsible for their own birth control whether dating, or married? I don't care if the woman says she's on birth control, takes it sporadically, or doesn't. It's like seat belts you do it for your own protection. Family court garnishes a lot of guys checks who claim SHE said she was on birth control. I guess it's that pass the buck thing.

In other words, if you're married to a whore, it behooves you to get the V so she can't claim the little bastard is your kid.

[Anonymous]

Man sperm is very sacred, when he chooses to cease delivery it is a strong commitment. Horrid and disrespectful this bad woman is, she should be wife shamed.

[Anonymous]

No it's not, much better then having your check garnished for 18 years for a kid you didn't want. See that all the time with men, and yes in their 50's who were stupid. I think any man once they are done having kids should do that since that's really the only good birth control for them. We know guys who will never retire. If a woman wants kids she will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recall reading on an MRA site that chicks' bodies can just tell if you are shooting blanks. Their bodies crave a real man's sperm. Because evolutionary psychology. So they'll stop having sex with your non-baby producing waste-of-time semen and seek out the real thing.

Bahahah, you must have read that in GQ or Playboy. That was funny, thanks.

It was a website -- or maybe I merged a couple of blog posts in my head. This is probably one of them that I read:
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/04/vasectomy-causing-loss-of-wifes-sexual-interest/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recall reading on an MRA site that chicks' bodies can just tell if you are shooting blanks. Their bodies crave a real man's sperm. Because evolutionary psychology. So they'll stop having sex with your non-baby producing waste-of-time semen and seek out the real thing.

Bahahah, you must have read that in GQ or Playboy. That was funny, thanks.

It was a website -- or maybe I merged a couple of blog posts in my head. This is probably one of them that I read:
http://marriedmansexlife.com/2010/04/vasectomy-causing-loss-of-wifes-sexual-interest/

I had a c-section, and while there, Dr. tied my tubes. Before this was decided, my DH willingly volunteered to get a vasectomy after baby was born because I was done with the pill. It made me gain weight and decreased my libido. We absolutely agreed on no more kids.

After about 4 yrs our sex life got much better. Why? I reduced my stress by working less hours. It was the stress, not the sperm count or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

I just don't understand the connections you are drawing here, I'm sorry. You had a vasectomy; your wife is cheating on you. How are these things connected?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't understand the connections you are drawing here, I'm sorry. You had a vasectomy; your wife is cheating on you. How are these things connected?

Suppose you're a DW in her mid-30's. You and your husband decide, after having two children, that you will have your tubes tied after the 2nd child. Five years later, your husband cheats on you with a younger woman, and gets her pregnant. The two of you eventually divorce. Your husband happily makes a new life with his new girlfriend/wife and third child.

Now wouldn't you feel just a bit disrespected in knowing that your husband has decided a younger woman and a 3rd child satisfies his life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a vasectomy increase her respect for you? Did you respect her more when she was on birth control?

This. Very odd to connect the two.

This. Who respects someone due to a vasectomy? Neither of you wanted more kids. You both wanted sex. Your vasectomy and previously her birth control ensured both the sex and no further offspring would result. You're playing a victim due to a vasectomy...