Is this shower invite a bit odd or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's a gift grab. Or you could look at it in a more positive way and say that they did not want you to feel excluded, or they are desperate for guests (since there are only 12 friends of the bride), or they would like to have a bigger turnout, or as others have said, she would like to get to know you. Why not take the more charitable interpretation, especially since IT'S A BABY SHOWER.

OP Here- It's not a baby shower, it's a bridal shower.

Point taken and wow some of you feel so strongly you had to yell and put me in my place haha. It was just a question of whether this is normal. I was planning to go out of courtesy and for DH's sake but I just thought I'd get some opinions on whether this is the norm. I've been to bridal showers that are very intimate i.e. a small group of women and I'm close to the bride. I've also been to ones that are huge 30-50 people and they invite everyone- male/female and far removed family etc. This is the first time I've had an invite for an intimate shower for someone I'm not close to so it did take me by surprise- but again it's my experience vs. I guess what you all have experienced! Anyhoo, I think I got the point that this isn't odd. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Gosh! I can't imagine thinking this is weird. So you aren't close?...maybe she's trying to include you and possibly get closer! Go to the damn shower if you're interested in being part of this family. If not, get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's a gift grab. Or you could look at it in a more positive way and say that they did not want you to feel excluded, or they are desperate for guests (since there are only 12 friends of the bride), or they would like to have a bigger turnout, or as others have said, she would like to get to know you. Why not take the more charitable interpretation, especially since IT'S A BABY SHOWER.

OP Here- It's not a baby shower, it's a bridal shower.

Point taken and wow some of you feel so strongly you had to yell and put me in my place haha. It was just a question of whether this is normal. I was planning to go out of courtesy and for DH's sake but I just thought I'd get some opinions on whether this is the norm. I've been to bridal showers that are very intimate i.e. a small group of women and I'm close to the bride. I've also been to ones that are huge 30-50 people and they invite everyone- male/female and far removed family etc. This is the first time I've had an invite for an intimate shower for someone I'm not close to so it did take me by surprise- but again it's my experience vs. I guess what you all have experienced! Anyhoo, I think I got the point that this isn't odd. Thanks.

There's no way to know exactly how many people were invited. Older people who don't check email often, or for whatever reason don't have email, may have been invited the old fashioned way.

[Anonymous]

This is sweet of them. They're trying to include you and become closer with you. The right thing of you is to attend.

[Anonymous]

Perfectly normal.

We always invite local family to things like showers.

Weddings, showers, confirmations, those are the few times we have to see extended family to celebrate. We were very close as kids but hardoy see the cousins as adults so it is fun to pick up where we left off every once in a while when there is something to celebrate

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal here? Loosen up and go down there and mingle. Sometimes we are the ones who create a problem out of simple things. Life is short.

[Anonymous]

I'd decline and send something. sounds like a snooze.

[Anonymous]

OP here, already responded to this. I'm going to the shower, think this thread needs to die now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gift grab. I would decline and send a small gift.

I would decline and not send a gift. We get this with graduations, people we hardly know..gift grab.