In-laws and seat belts/car seats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are coming to visit from the Middle East with two children, 4 and 7, and I have insisted on buying proper car seats for them as NO ONE wears seat belts there and they definitely won't have child seats. I normally check seat belts before DH drives off and he agrees the kids need to be buckled but he asked me not to insist his brother be strapped in! He says it would be very disrespectful. Can I maybe mention to my SIL that I would like everyone to wear theirs and she could tell him?

So you can't even get your husband to comply with the law....

OP: He always wears his seat belt, but I still check him and every passenger to make sure they're buckled in. And he knows I do this which is why he told me not to call out his brother for not being properly restrained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No matter what the state laws say, the laws of physics say that an unbuckled passenger can be highly dangerous to others in the car if a crash should occur.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, the friggin' dinging seat belt alarm should be enough for your BIL or whoever is in the front seat to buckle up. That thing is super annoying.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you or your child (and I would add any minor) is in the vehicle, your DH needs to man up and tell his brother he needs to wear the seat belt. My husband is very loose on safety in a lot of ways and a lot of his friends don't always buckle up but he will not let anyone ride unrestrained if I'm in the car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My relatives in New Hampshire are like this too. We refer to the state as "Live free (and) die."

We used to call it "Live free and die in your own trash" due to their terrible recycling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My relatives in New Hampshire are like this too. We refer to the state as "Live free (and) die."

We used to call it "Live free and die in your own trash" due to their terrible recycling.

Ha! Hadn't heard of that one. It works well with our other name for it: New Hampster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: DH will be driving and by (District) law everyone (front and back) needs to wear seat belts but DH says we won't get pulled over because the back windows are tinted. I plan on moving our son, 6, to the third row so at least he's behind. I get that in DH's culture things are different with older siblings but can I insist on it? (I should say that DH is not just being a wimp. When we visited them he always wore his seat belt even though I didn't see a single other male do so and he got teased because of it.)

My husband didn't wear a seat belt on vacation in Thailand because it "wasn't part of the culture." I was so pissed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: DH will be driving and by (District) law everyone (front and back) needs to wear seat belts but DH says we won't get pulled over because the back windows are tinted. I plan on moving our son, 6, to the third row so at least he's behind. I get that in DH's culture things are different with older siblings but can I insist on it? (I should say that DH is not just being a wimp. When we visited them he always wore his seat belt even though I didn't see a single other male do so and he got teased because of it.)

My husband didn't wear a seat belt on vacation in Thailand because it "wasn't part of the culture." I was so pissed.

OP, it sounds like you've educated your DH well on seat belt safety and he is aware of the strict laws in our area but I feel like he might not be aware of the serious projectile risk from carrying an unbelted passenger? Maybe he just needs a little more education about automobile safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are coming to visit from the Middle East with two children, 4 and 7, and I have insisted on buying proper car seats for them as NO ONE wears seat belts there and they definitely won't have child seats. I normally check seat belts before DH drives off and he agrees the kids need to be buckled but he asked me not to insist his brother be strapped in! He says it would be very disrespectful. Can I maybe mention to my SIL that I would like everyone to wear theirs and she could tell him?

So you can't even get your husband to comply with the law....

OP: He always wears his seat belt, but I still check him and every passenger to make sure they're buckled in. And he knows I do this which is why he told me not to call out his brother for not being properly restrained.

Weird, that you feel the need to mother your husband-my husband would find this very condescending, controlling and disrepectful. Not to mention you underrmine your children's perception of him...how unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are coming to visit from the Middle East with two children, 4 and 7, and I have insisted on buying proper car seats for them as NO ONE wears seat belts there and they definitely won't have child seats. I normally check seat belts before DH drives off and he agrees the kids need to be buckled but he asked me not to insist his brother be strapped in! He says it would be very disrespectful. Can I maybe mention to my SIL that I would like everyone to wear theirs and she could tell him?

So you can't even get your husband to comply with the law....

OP: He always wears his seat belt, but I still check him and every passenger to make sure they're buckled in. And he knows I do this which is why he told me not to call out his brother for not being properly restrained.

Weird, that you feel the need to mother your husband-my husband would find this very condescending, controlling and disrepectful. Not to mention you underrmine your children's perception of him...how unhealthy.

What? You wouldn't say something if you saw your husband unbuckled?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, the friggin' dinging seat belt alarm should be enough for your BIL or whoever is in the front seat to buckle up. That thing is super annoying.

My father-in-law buckles the seatbelt across an empty seat and then sits on it so the alarm doesn't ding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are coming to visit from the Middle East with two children, 4 and 7, and I have insisted on buying proper car seats for them as NO ONE wears seat belts there and they definitely won't have child seats. I normally check seat belts before DH drives off and he agrees the kids need to be buckled but he asked me not to insist his brother be strapped in! He says it would be very disrespectful. Can I maybe mention to my SIL that I would like everyone to wear theirs and she could tell him?

"Hey, BIL, DC law requires that everyone in the car wear their seat belt. Buckle up!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are coming to visit from the Middle East with two children, 4 and 7, and I have insisted on buying proper car seats for them as NO ONE wears seat belts there and they definitely won't have child seats. I normally check seat belts before DH drives off and he agrees the kids need to be buckled but he asked me not to insist his brother be strapped in! He says it would be very disrespectful. Can I maybe mention to my SIL that I would like everyone to wear theirs and she could tell him?

So you can't even get your husband to comply with the law....

OP: He always wears his seat belt, but I still check him and every passenger to make sure they're buckled in. And he knows I do this which is why he told me not to call out his brother for not being properly restrained.

Weird, that you feel the need to mother your husband-my husband would find this very condescending, controlling and disrepectful. Not to mention you underrmine your children's perception of him...how unhealthy.

My DH always checks to make sure I'm buckled. I think it's sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fuck the "other culture".

In YOUR culture, in YOUR country, people are expected to wear seat belts.

Make the visitors conform. Make them respect your culture.

Absolutely!

[Anonymous]

The driver is the one who will get pulled over. The driver can decide what rules to enforce in his/her car.

I wouldn't let anyone drive in my car without being properly buckled, children or adults.