Worried about brother's weight

[Anonymous]

Khloe Kardashian, is that you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have several relatives who are severely overweight. I mind my own business because it's not my body and I don't think nagging really helps a person want to change

THIS!

[Anonymous]

My brother is the opposite. Takes him three hours to locate a restaurant with a suitable organic, non-GMO menu that has grass fed whatever. He's 30 pounds underweight and raising his kids with the same orthorexia issues. It's really sad. But he's a grown man and it's his choice and his business.

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain. It's hard to watch someone make possibly detrimental life choices. My father was obese and every meal with him was a painful exercise in biting my tongue. 3 tablespoons of butter on a slice of bread.... Argh!

I came to terms with the situation when I eventually realized that as an intelligent, well educated and sharp individual who didn't live under a rock, there was absolutely nothing he could hear from me that he didn't know already. He had to get to the point where he wanted to totally overhaul his diet; I couldn't force or cajole him into it.

Lots of people have difficult internal struggles with controlling what they eat, and only they can fight that fight. You can support someone who asks for the support, but interfering before they ask for help is likely to backfire and cause hurt feelings or a damaged relationship.

[Anonymous]

You can only be support unless you are in a position to actively help.

I am with family now who have commented on my weight. I have 2 active teens and a husband who works long hours and travels. I would love to go exercise - if someone would offer to drive my kids to all the activities or do all the household chores and errands for me. I can't afford a gym and my job keeps me tied to a reception desk which also is a problem. No neighborhood friends that can come walking with me for camaraderie. I know they are excuses but that is my life these days. Maybe someday it will be different but for now I'm just going to have to be overweight. Maybe your brother has struggles he's keeping quiet.

[Anonymous]

My FIL was like this and always defended his right to live his way and accept the consequences come what may. He died in an instant of a sudden heart attack at 70. I had grandparents who lingered with dementia for 20 years as each body system broke down one by one until they died in their 90s. I really don't know which one I'd choose for myself. For himself anyway, FIL was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Khloe Kardashian, is that you?

Haha. That would be amazing.