Asking for a woman's number at the check out line

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousin got picked up at the checkout line and is now married to her surgeon husband.

Glad he isn't a fucking accountant or something lame like that.

+1 Well, if he's a SURGEON...

[Anonymous]

Just because a woman smiled at you in the checkout line, doesn't mean she wants you. I smile at guys all the time in the checkout line but that's just my personality. Everyone is tired, hungry, a little agitated so I think a smile may perk up someone's evening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:4 women have smiled and kind of flirted with me at the checkout line the last couple of weeks at the grocery store. I find it ultra awkward though asking for their contact info in line with everyone else around and the cashier staring at us as well as me being half grumpy from being hungry.

What are you ladies expecting when you flirt or smile/make eyecontact in a flirty way at whole foods?

Thank god for small mercies.

If she wants your number, she'll ask for it.

No, this isn't how it works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

Great Christmas gift idea!! Kidding, sort of. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 women have smiled and kind of flirted with me at the checkout line the last couple of weeks at the grocery store. I find it ultra awkward though asking for their contact info in line with everyone else around and the cashier staring at us as well as me being half grumpy from being hungry.

What are you ladies expecting when you flirt or smile/make eyecontact in a flirty way at whole foods?

Thank god for small mercies.

If she wants your number, she'll ask for it.

No, this isn't how it works.

+1. Woman here and have yet to ask for a man's number even when quite interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 women have smiled and kind of flirted with me at the checkout line the last couple of weeks at the grocery store. I find it ultra awkward though asking for their contact info in line with everyone else around and the cashier staring at us as well as me being half grumpy from being hungry.

What are you ladies expecting when you flirt or smile/make eyecontact in a flirty way at whole foods?

Thank god for small mercies.

If she wants your number, she'll ask for it.

No, this isn't how it works.

+1. Woman here and have yet to ask for a man's number even when quite interested.

+2, I've never asked for a man's number and I won't ever ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At whole foods? Well, I am probably looking for the sexy sexy man of my dreams while I grocery shop- NO OP you do not need to pick up ladies at whole foods! When I am grocery shopping I only want groceries! If some lady is THAT interested she will chat with you AFTER you are done buying and THEN you can ask for her number!

That is known as a desperate woman. If she has other options, she won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

Better yet, give them your tax return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

Better yet, give them your tax return.

Sad to say but in this area, for some that's an approach that works.

[Anonymous]

+3 to never ever having had to ask a man for his number. Not a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+3 to never ever having had to ask a man for his number. Not a chance.

+4

I've never asked, but I've never needed to. I either get an offer of their contact info or a straight up "So, when can I take you out?" The latter gets nowhere with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

Better yet, give them your tax return.

Good idea. Some men are lying to both women and the IRS about their income. It will make a great conversation starter at the requisite Starbucks pre-date.

[Anonymous]

The grocery store is considered a great place to meet a man after five o'clock. At least before online dating took over.

I personally love man hunting at Home Depot.

[Anonymous]

Ooops. Sorry I forgot to answer your actual question.

It would be kinda tricky do ask someone in line since you haven't had enough time to figure out for sure if this girl is actually flirting.

She could be just bored waiting and wants to converse to make the time go faster.

A better way to not lose touch would be to offer her your business card. Leave it up to her.

Trust me, if she is interested in getting to know more of you, she will contact you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The grocery store is considered a great place to meet a man after five o'clock. At least before online dating took over.

I personally love man hunting at Home Depot.

Ugh, no. I hate the assumption that "the little lady must be lost, heh, heh". I roofed in summers as a teen girl. Only "chick" on the job. I was the one who did household repairs during my marriage. When I go to Home Depot or Lowe's I'm there to grab what I need and get out. If you approach me, be prepared that the only request I'll say yes to is "Can I carry this heavy ass thing for you?" Yes, yes you may.