Asking for a woman's number at the check out line

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

Nothing wrong with that. He did check out your ass. You're entitled to check out his purse. This is the way of the world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Got chatting with a nice guy at WF on the checkout line. Wanted to get to know him but didn't hang around. Afterward i went on Craigslist - Missed Connections. No luck.

Human beings are social animals. Chatting is just that. Unless he sticks around, he is not interested.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

Makes sense! I was wondering something re restraining orders, did these show up because they had been violated or was it that Ex-wife took out PO against Ex-husband and that showed up on a criminal background check even though it is a civil remedy? Thanks for explaining further!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

Don't make assumptions with the bankruptcy, there could be a valid reason one had to do that
In addition, isn't the membership a yearly cost (or you can break it out into month by month)? Do they plan on paying for it until you find "the one"?

[Anonymous]

Well, at least OP shops at Whole Foods and not Safeway...as if.

[Anonymous]

PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.


I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

ugh, no. Basic things like, they are who they say they are; they are not married; etc. lots of bitter men on this site who seem to be obsessed with gold digging women, when the truth is that women are finally earning more money (though still not equal to men) and need it less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In those situations I prefer that the guy give me his info so I don't feel put on the spot.

+1 keep your business cards handy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

Hee hee. LOVE your parents! What a brilliant idea. Instead of nagging you about who you're dating, they give you the means to check for yourself. What an empowering message to send -- you are good enough not to date losers, and telling who they are isn't that easy these days, so be smart and use the tools at your disposal.

I would love to know how this "present" was delivered......

[Anonymous]

If there's really something there, engage in happy chit chat conversation while your groceries are checked through. Maybe say, "Have you tried [food] here? Oh, it's so good. I highly recommend. If you'd like, I'll run back when I'm done and get you a sample." And THEN ask her out.

Or throw caution to the wind and just say, "Hey, random weird question, but do you want to drop off groceries and meet around the corner/at the store bakery for a coffee/tea?" Always helps if you're actually in the middle of talking about something of substance, something that would benefit from more extended discussion.

I know of at least one chance encounter like this that ended up in a long term relationship.

But if you do this too much, all the cashier folks will know you as "The Pickup Artist."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

NP, but I do this too, because a lot of these supposedly single men and very fucking married and I have ZERO interest in spending time with someone's husband. I want my own husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In those situations I prefer that the guy give me his info so I don't feel put on the spot.

+1 keep your business cards handy.

Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PSA to men: if you are approaching women you do not know because you are interested in a date, give them YOUR number, not the other way around. A business card, preferably, where they can check up on you, but if not, at least an email and phone. Even if I found someone attractive, its unlikely I would give my contact info to a complete stranger. And, this way if she's not interested, you are not putitng her or yourself in a terribly awkward spot.

I.e. determine whether you earn enough to warrant their interest?

These days to see if you have a record. I can't tell you how many guys I met who were professionals turned out to have DUIs or restraining orders.

You actually pay for criminal background checks on prospective dates? Wow. You're very, uh, methodical.

I was a divorced mom with two DD. One was a very pretty teen. Plus, my XH felt he got burned on custody and was looking for me to slip up so he could drag me back into court. I needed a bad dating choice like a hole in the head. My parents bought me a membership to a background check site when I said I was ready to start dating again. Yes, everyone got screened. Even men that I met through friends or work. It was eye opening: criminal activity, bankruptcies and foreclosures, multiple divorces.

Presumably you got their permission for the background checks? That must have been awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4 women have smiled and kind of flirted with me at the checkout line the last couple of weeks at the grocery store. I find it ultra awkward though asking for their contact info in line with everyone else around and the cashier staring at us as well as me being half grumpy from being hungry.

What are you ladies expecting when you flirt or smile/make eyecontact in a flirty way at whole foods?

Thank god for small mercies.

If she wants your number, she'll ask for it.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with picking up people at Safeway vs. Whole Foods?

I would rather be with someone who knew how to save a buck than someone who pays double for sub par, overpriced goods at WF.