I wish I had in-laws to complain about

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

It's kind of funny you are calling someone out as immature, but your defense for your behavior is "but, but she did it first." Are you 5 years old?

I wasn't the "time to grow up" poster, so I'm not calling anyone out as immature. I do find it funny that you (or someone) called this a "pissing match" when that is exactly how the thread started. She's comparing her life to others', essentially saying "you could have it worse." Well, yes! But we can all join in that construct, now can't we?

Go back in read the OP and all her responses. That's not what was said at all. Other posters seemed to understand it.
OP's only mistake was posting that she wished she had a MIL even a shitty one because it would make her husband happier to have his mom around.
Guess she didn't get the memo that MILs are to be disparaged at all times and that husbands are ogres with no feelings on these boards.
You and PP chose to feel attacked.
You and PP chose to be nasty with your response to be part of the mean girl club.
You aren't alone and it's a pattern on these boards.
The first 2 or 3 responders decide where they want the thread to go. If it's a mean girl who decides to be bitchy to the OP so goes the thread.
Spin it anyway you like but that's the truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

It's kind of funny you are calling someone out as immature, but your defense for your behavior is "but, but she did it first." Are you 5 years old?

I wasn't the "time to grow up" poster, so I'm not calling anyone out as immature. I do find it funny that you (or someone) called this a "pissing match" when that is exactly how the thread started. She's comparing her life to others', essentially saying "you could have it worse." Well, yes! But we can all join in that construct, now can't we?

Go back in read the OP and all her responses. That's not what was said at all. Other posters seemed to understand it.
OP's only mistake was posting that she wished she had a MIL even a shitty one because it would make her husband happier to have his mom around.
Guess she didn't get the memo that MILs are to be disparaged at all times and that husbands are ogres with no feelings on these boards.
You and PP chose to feel attacked.
You and PP chose to be nasty with your response to be part of the mean girl club.
You aren't alone and it's a pattern on these boards.
The first 2 or 3 responders decide where they want the thread to go. If it's a mean girl who decides to be bitchy to the OP so goes the thread.
Spin it anyway you like but that's the truth.

OK, OP!

[Anonymous]

I lost my parents and appreciate this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

Couldn't agree more. She's sad for her husband and misses additional family this holiday season. How anyone could criticize that is frankly disgusting. Look in the mirror, nasty pp's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lost my parents and appreciate this post.

Big Hugs!

[Anonymous]

You people who sympathize with OP and are critical of other PPs for not supporting her vent ARE THE SAME PEOPLE who criticize, pick at and mock every IL/family vent on this board.

If OP deserves a "heartfelt vent"/moment of pity, so does everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people who sympathize with OP and are critical of other PPs for not supporting her vent ARE THE SAME PEOPLE who criticize, pick at and mock every IL/family vent on this board.

If OP deserves a "heartfelt vent"/moment of pity, so does everyone else.

I agree with this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You people who sympathize with OP and are critical of other PPs for not supporting her vent ARE THE SAME PEOPLE who criticize, pick at and mock every IL/family vent on this board.

If OP deserves a "heartfelt vent"/moment of pity, so does everyone else.

I agree with this.

But not at someone else's expense. Man, I can't believe what I just read on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

Couldn't agree more. She's sad for her husband and misses additional family this holiday season. How anyone could criticize that is frankly disgusting. Look in the mirror, nasty pp's.

+1

[Anonymous]

My ILs are nice and loving people but are a big time and financial drain on us. My DH worries about them and our family's future constantly.

[Anonymous]

These stories make me sad-- we have very left family members and my DS has no cousins.
Someday, I hope he gets married and has four kids. I would bend over backward for a DIL- I would never want to risk not seeing grandkids. If my DS and his future wife want to take a vacation alone-- they can leave these future children with me.
Life is so short. I love my son, and part of that is hoping he has the family and relationships that make him happy. Me, I want to be surrounded by family for as long as possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH's Aunts and Uncles live some distance so we see them rarely. He does have a younger brother, which is good, but different than a grandparent.
BIL is great, but he can't tell me about what it was like DH's first year, the first time he held him the way a mom would, the way an MIL would.
It's silly I know.

You have this fantasy of what a mother in law would be. My MIL hasn't told me a thing about DH when he was born except how much he weighed. She told me he was allergic to one kind of formula and needed a different kind but that's irrelevant to me since I'm nursing. She never said anything else about his first year of life. She's met our baby on one visit and hasn't ever held her. Not all mothers in law fit your fantasy.

PP, did you ever ASK your MIL to tell you about your husband when he was a child?
Did you ever show that interest, ask specific questions, say that you'd love to know what he was like?
Or did you just stand there waiting for her to take all the initiative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These stories make me sad-- we have very left family members and my DS has no cousins.
Someday, I hope he gets married and has four kids. I would bend over backward for a DIL- I would never want to risk not seeing grandkids. If my DS and his future wife want to take a vacation alone-- they can leave these future children with me.
Life is so short. I love my son, and part of that is hoping he has the family and relationships that make him happy. Me, I want to be surrounded by family for as long as possible.

Why didn't you have more children? This seems like a large burden for a dil to carry

[Anonymous]

OP, you and your husband must have a great relationship for you to feel his loss. I am sure your MIL and FIL would want that for their son most of all.


Can you figure out a way to get your family to spend some time with DH's brother and family during this season? You can try and make your own traditions too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, so glad you found something to complain about...no ILs to complain about.

Ha ha! Exactly.

Life is not complete without whining about something.

Time to grow up, OP.

I don't think it's OP who needs to grow up. The ones laking maturity are the posters who turned a heartfelt post into a pissing match.

OP took the first piss! That's the point of the backlash!

It's kind of funny you are calling someone out as immature, but your defense for your behavior is "but, but she did it first." Are you 5 years old?

I wasn't the "time to grow up" poster, so I'm not calling anyone out as immature. I do find it funny that you (or someone) called this a "pissing match" when that is exactly how the thread started. She's comparing her life to others', essentially saying "you could have it worse." Well, yes! But we can all join in that construct, now can't we?

Go back in read the OP and all her responses. That's not what was said at all. Other posters seemed to understand it.
OP's only mistake was posting that she wished she had a MIL even a shitty one because it would make her husband happier to have his mom around.
Guess she didn't get the memo that MILs are to be disparaged at all times and that husbands are ogres with no feelings on these boards.
You and PP chose to feel attacked.
You and PP chose to be nasty with your response to be part of the mean girl club.
You aren't alone and it's a pattern on these boards.
The first 2 or 3 responders decide where they want the thread to go. If it's a mean girl who decides to be bitchy to the OP so goes the thread.
Spin it anyway you like but that's the truth.

Late to this thread. I'm happy someone else had a good relationship with MIL and I can't believe that means I have to "grow up." If hating your MIL means you're a grown up, consider me a kid.