So this just happened...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Adults get birthday checks?

Yep! Some get trust funds, some get college paid for, some get birthday presents, and some get checks.

It's almost as if different families do different things!

Never growing up is a thing to do these days?

Well then my parents who are 70 have never grown up, because we kids get them birthday gifts too! Until my last grandparent died recently, my parents got birthday gifts from my grandparents, who were in their 90s.

[Anonymous]

I'm happy for and a little envious of you, OP. My parents (and certainly my in-laws) don't send me birthday cards, gifts, checks or anything. My parents even forgot my birthday a few years ago (and I'm not that old, not that it should matter). I get that you're annoyed/mystified, but it's a nice problem to have (albeit a little odd, I agree).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm happy for and a little envious of you, OP. My parents (and certainly my in-laws) don't send me birthday cards, gifts, checks or anything. My parents even forgot my birthday a few years ago (and I'm not that old, not that it should matter). I get that you're annoyed/mystified, but it's a nice problem to have (albeit a little odd, I agree).

Oh, I agree! Which is why my DH and I just smiled and shrugged at it, I sent the note, and I posted here because I thought it was odd and ridiculous. It's not like I asked them why they did it or anything?

Do you celebrate your parents' birthdays?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you get them presents too?

Of course we do! And my siblings. Do you people not celebrate birthdays with family?!

We celebrate birthdays in my family but not with gifts anymore. I'll send my parents and siblings cards and call them. If we happen to be in the same city we'll do cake, singing, etc, and maybe go out to dinner. I do give gifts for her nieces and nephews, but they're all still young.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you get them presents too?

Of course we do! And my siblings. Do you people not celebrate birthdays with family?!

We celebrate birthdays in my family but not with gifts anymore. I'll send my parents and siblings cards and call them. If we happen to be in the same city we'll do cake, singing, etc, and maybe go out to dinner. I do give gifts for her nieces and nephews, but they're all still young.

*my nieces and nephews. Not sure where the her came from.

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Am I the first person to wonder why your DH shared this pre-birthday conversation with you?

It doesn't speak well of him. It put everyone in a bad light.
Your inlaws were trying to do the right thing. Why didn't he let it go?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happy for and a little envious of you, OP. My parents (and certainly my in-laws) don't send me birthday cards, gifts, checks or anything. My parents even forgot my birthday a few years ago (and I'm not that old, not that it should matter). I get that you're annoyed/mystified, but it's a nice problem to have (albeit a little odd, I agree).

Oh, I agree! Which is why my DH and I just smiled and shrugged at it, I sent the note, and I posted here because I thought it was odd and ridiculous. It's not like I asked them why they did it or anything?

Do you celebrate your parents' birthdays?

I used to send cards. Now I call or text. We are not at all close - obviously!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you get them presents too?

Of course we do! And my siblings. Do you people not celebrate birthdays with family?!

Dinner, cards, and cake, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the first person to wonder why your DH shared this pre-birthday conversation with you?

It doesn't speak well of him. It put everyone in a bad light.
Your inlaws were trying to do the right thing. Why didn't he let it go?

"do the right thing" would have been matching, if anything. $25 more is just trying to one up, and it is tacky and obvious. This would seem very odd to me, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the first person to wonder why your DH shared this pre-birthday conversation with you?

It doesn't speak well of him. It put everyone in a bad light.
Your inlaws were trying to do the right thing. Why didn't he let it go?

OP here. Because the one upping is a running joke of sorts. It's everything...my MIL is one of those story one-uppers. Like the SNL character Kristen Wiig used to play.

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Anonymous wrote:Too bad your DH didn't say $300.

Yes, you need to learn to play and win at their game, OP!

Yup. Next year remind him that it's $500 from your parents.

Take yourself to a nice dinner OP.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too bad your DH didn't say $300.

Yes, you need to learn to play and win at their game, OP!

Yup. Next year remind him that it's $500 from your parents.

Take yourself to a nice dinner OP.

+1 And THAT'S how the game is played!