What do you think of Carolyn Hax's advice re kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She always gives bad advice. I assign no value to her.

Ditto. She is an insufferable twit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She always gives bad advice. I assign no value to her.

Ditto. She is an insufferable twit.

what advice of hers haven't you liked? I typically find her very practical and focused on what the reality is vs other advice columnists that just say "yes you're justified in being upset"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She always gives bad advice. I assign no value to her.

Ditto. She is an insufferable twit.

Something tells me she's just smarter than either of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're TTC so no kids yet. But hell yeah I would want myself as a parent. DH and I are awesome, have lots of fun, would love to play games. I always came up with the best ideas in my group of friends and am great with unstructured activities. Even now DH and I have weekends where we just pack the car and drive until we hit something interesting to visit. I was a great nanny when I was younger.

That being said, the quiet, studious, shy kid probably wouldn't want me as a parent. Nor would the sporty kid, but DH is all about sports.

The thing is that you get the kid you get. You might very well get the quiet, shy, or sporty kid. A good parent will be a good parent with the kid she gets, not the one she wishes she got.

This- a good parent is one because they parent the kid they have not the one they want. I firmly believe that a good parent (not some amazing super parent but someone stable and loving) can parent pretty much any kind of kid because its not about the parent, they can be total opposites on the introvert/extrovert scale or any other such ridiculous things that we always seem to read about but are by no means all there is to a person, and still be a great parent and kid combo because of the love, acceptance and stability.

[Anonymous]

I think this only works if you also ask, for those raised by less than stellar parents, if they would prefer not to have been born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She always gives bad advice. I assign no value to her.

Ditto. She is an insufferable twit.

Something tells me she's just smarter than either of you.

Hi Carolyn!!

[Anonymous]

I agree. I had the best mother in the world. I try to emulate her and in doing so, I would choose me.

[Anonymous]

I read her stuff but I never agree with her either.

And yes,I only had one kid who turned out quite well by accident...so I would pick myself over my own parents who did "benign neglect" thanks to having 8 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're TTC so no kids yet. But hell yeah I would want myself as a parent. DH and I are awesome, have lots of fun, would love to play games. I always came up with the best ideas in my group of friends and am great with unstructured activities. Even now DH and I have weekends where we just pack the car and drive until we hit something interesting to visit. I was a great nanny when I was younger.

That being said, the quiet, studious, shy kid probably wouldn't want me as a parent. Nor would the sporty kid, but DH is all about sports.

Being a nanny is so not the same as being a parent. You may have been a fun nanny, but you won't be the same as a parent. And your day's of just packing up the car and hitting something interesting may be over once your kid hits a certain age. I think a lot of couples were "fun loving" before kids. Some of it changes once you have kids.

I certainly hope for you that if you do get a "quiet, studious, shy" and/or unathletic kid, you figure out how to parent that kid because that's what parenting is.. figuring out how to parent the child you were given.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She always gives bad advice. I assign no value to her.

Ditto. She is an insufferable twit.

what advice of hers haven't you liked? I typically find her very practical and focused on what the reality is vs other advice columnists that just say "yes you're justified in being upset"

+1. I don't always agree with her advice, but I find her a refreshing change from all the others.