The pill for DD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm the parent who did pill and then IUD. YES. I regularly and religiously told her that one method always fails and that people who only use one method of birth control are called parents. I always emphasized two methods were required, one always must be a condom.

I also always said the only thing that is 100% is abstinence.

BTW- I know a bunch of kids that ended up pregnant and at planned parenthood who were on nothing. I would imagine this is the "not my kid" crowd. OP - you are smart - mitigate that risk!!!!

But that's factually incorrect. One method does NOT always fail. And there are plenty of people who only use one method of birth control without becoming parents.

Ok, fair enough if you want to parse the words that way. I believe I told her that she should plan on the possibility (probability) one method failing if used in isolation many times, and to think of it like have a second goalie in a soccer game. I further suggested no "soccer" till marriage, but if you must play soccer only play with two goalies.

If you want your teen to only use one method of birth control you like playing roulette more than I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to go on the pill, parents said no, used condom instead, pregnant at 22.

You didn't need parents permission or consent for the pill for many years by 22, why did you not make your own health decisions? That said, I think there is a world of difference between a 22 year old and a person who still lives with their parents because they are a minor! 22 isn't an easy road, particularly financially, but its not exactly kids having kids territory.

[Anonymous]

I got my driver's license last summer for the first time. I'm in my 40s. I even tithe to ZipCar each month, with an extra charge for added insurance. There's even a large pick up spot two blocks from me. Despite all of this readiness, I haven't driven once in the last year.

Being on birth control doesn't MAKE anyone have sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I would not give her an IUD. No matter how many times you say that it does not mean she should have sex, your giving her a way to have sex without consequences. Your words and actions send seperate messages

An IUD is not a way to have sex without consequences. An IUD is a way to have sex without pregnancy. (I, personally, think that's a very good thing for a person who has sex and doesn't want to get pregnant.)

+1 There are still consequences to sex--some good, some bad. Plus, it's not as if not giving a girl access to contraception means that they won't have sex--it just means that they are more likely to get pregnant if they do.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP's daughter is not yet having sex. If OP has already informed their daughter about birth control, I think that is enough. When OP's DD is ready to have sex, she can self-advocate and ask for it. Providing birth control is not encouraging sex, but going out of your way to ask your daughter if she needs it sends her the message that you expect she already does. Unless OP expects her freshman daughter is having sex, I think it is not needed. If OP does expect her freshman daughter is having sex, then maybe that is a different and most certainly needed conversation.

[Anonymous]

DD just didn't want her period in HS so I took her to planned parenthood for birth control without an exam. They gave her one that for the most part eliminates her period unless she misses a dose. Didn't need the birth control until college but it was nice to know she had years of experience with it before it was urgent. It also made sports and her acne much better in HS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

But that's factually incorrect. One method does NOT always fail. And there are plenty of people who only use one method of birth control without becoming parents.

Ok, fair enough if you want to parse the words that way. I believe I told her that she should plan on the possibility (probability) one method failing if used in isolation many times, and to think of it like have a second goalie in a soccer game. I further suggested no "soccer" till marriage, but if you must play soccer only play with two goalies.

If you want your teen to only use one method of birth control you like playing roulette more than I do.



The effectiveness of an IUD is 99.8%. That is, if 1,000 women use an IUD for a year, 998 women will not get pregnant, and 2 women will get pregnant. That's the probability.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-birth-control-shift/380952/

I, personally, don't consider that roulette, but maybe you do.

Now, should a person still use a condom, if they use an IUD? Yes. But not for prevention of pregnancy. For prevention of STIs.

[Anonymous]

So there is only one possible consequence of sex? Pregnancy? What about STDs/STIs and just as importantly, emotional and even physical trauma?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But that's factually incorrect. One method does NOT always fail. And there are plenty of people who only use one method of birth control without becoming parents.

Ok, fair enough if you want to parse the words that way. I believe I told her that she should plan on the possibility (probability) one method failing if used in isolation many times, and to think of it like have a second goalie in a soccer game. I further suggested no "soccer" till marriage, but if you must play soccer only play with two goalies.

If you want your teen to only use one method of birth control you like playing roulette more than I do.

The effectiveness of an IUD is 99.8%. That is, if 1,000 women use an IUD for a year, 998 women will not get pregnant, and 2 women will get pregnant. That's the probability.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-birth-control-shift/380952/


Forgive me for feeling passionate about not being one of the 2.
I, personally, don't consider that roulette, but maybe you do.

Now, should a person still use a condom, if they use an IUD? Yes. But not for prevention of pregnancy. For prevention of STIs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I would not give her an IUD. No matter how many times you say that it does not mean she should have sex, your giving her a way to have sex without consequences. Your words and actions send seperate messages

People like you are one reason why abortion remains necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about health risks related to using the pills?

I'm happy to talk to my DD (and DS) about pregnancy prevention and STD prevention, and provide condoms, but I am a little leery about the side effects of the pill.

Is anyone else concerned about that?

Oral contraceptive pills in the 2000s are not the pills of the 1960s. They are extremely low dose and actually have been shown in multiple studies to have long-term health BENEFITS, including dramitically reduced rates of endometrial cancer and reduced rates of breast cancer and ovarian cancer.

The risk of cervical cancer was found to be slightly higher but probably related to more frequent and thorough screening of women on the pill, since they have to see a DR to get a Rx. Although it may also be related to increased rates of HPV, no studies done yet to show that as a factor.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2202849

http://www.newsweek.com/birth-control-pills-may-reduce-endometrial-cancer-risk-359969

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But that's factually incorrect. One method does NOT always fail. And there are plenty of people who only use one method of birth control without becoming parents.

Ok, fair enough if you want to parse the words that way. I believe I told her that she should plan on the possibility (probability) one method failing if used in isolation many times, and to think of it like have a second goalie in a soccer game. I further suggested no "soccer" till marriage, but if you must play soccer only play with two goalies.

If you want your teen to only use one method of birth control you like playing roulette more than I do.

The effectiveness of an IUD is 99.8%. That is, if 1,000 women use an IUD for a year, 998 women will not get pregnant, and 2 women will get pregnant. That's the probability.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-birth-control-shift/380952/


Forgive me for feeling passionate about not being one of the 2.
I, personally, don't consider that roulette, but maybe you do.

Now, should a person still use a condom, if they use an IUD? Yes. But not for prevention of pregnancy. For prevention of STIs.

I've personally known 5 women that got pregnant with an IUD. All but one miscarried. So condoms are for both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

But that's factually incorrect. One method does NOT always fail. And there are plenty of people who only use one method of birth control without becoming parents.

Ok, fair enough if you want to parse the words that way. I believe I told her that she should plan on the possibility (probability) one method failing if used in isolation many times, and to think of it like have a second goalie in a soccer game. I further suggested no "soccer" till marriage, but if you must play soccer only play with two goalies.

If you want your teen to only use one method of birth control you like playing roulette more than I do.

The effectiveness of an IUD is 99.8%. That is, if 1,000 women use an IUD for a year, 998 women will not get pregnant, and 2 women will get pregnant. That's the probability.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/10/the-birth-control-shift/380952/


Forgive me for feeling passionate about not being one of the 2.
I, personally, don't consider that roulette, but maybe you do.

Now, should a person still use a condom, if they use an IUD? Yes. But not for prevention of pregnancy. For prevention of STIs.

I've personally known 5 women that got pregnant with an IUD. All but one miscarried. So condoms are for both.
Did you meet them at an IUD failure support group?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to go on the pill, parents said no, used condom instead, pregnant at 22.

Why didn't you add in the pill later? At 22 it seems like a person could make their own decisions. Did you have exigent circumstances?

I took myself to planned parenthood at 16 or 17 and they got me set up with the pill

[Anonymous]

I went on the pill at 14 to help with my irregular periods and severe cramping. I didn't have sex until I was almost 17 with a long term boyfriend and we always used condoms too. Having birth control doesn't mean you automatically start having sex.