What do you consider immature for kindergarten?

[Anonymous]

A crier and a pants-wetter. Those two say to me "I'm too immature to be here."


My extremely intelligent child cried throughout K. She was the top of the class in reading/math/spelling. Should I have held her back another year?

That's up to you. There are many different types of intelligence - intellectual intelligence, emotional intelligence etc. For kids who behave immaturely (e.g. crying all of the time), it can be difficult from a social perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately behaving in an age appropriate way for a five year old, especially boys, is considered too immature for today's kindergarten.

As hard as it is for boys, it must be even more difficult for the random girl who is a little less mature. Moms of well behaved girls are generally so judgemental of others who are not as smart/pretty/well behaved as their own daughters. I really feel for the less mature girls even more than the boys. At least the boys have a sizeable peer group behaving just as naughty or spirited as the next boy.

Both my kids acted appropriately in kindergarten. The majority of kids do, regardless of sex.

Avtually, the majority act like five year olds, which is not what the expectations are anymore for kndergarten. Little boys have a much more difficult time in kindergarten than little girls.

Ask any kindergarten teacher and they will tell you the exact same thing.

Boys have a much harder time adapting to kindergarten expectations and can sometimes take all year to get there. First grade teachers will say the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately behaving in an age appropriate way for a five year old, especially boys, is considered too immature for today's kindergarten.

As hard as it is for boys, it must be even more difficult for the random girl who is a little less mature. Moms of well behaved girls are generally so judgemental of others who are not as smart/pretty/well behaved as their own daughters. I really feel for the less mature girls even more than the boys. At least the boys have a sizeable peer group behaving just as naughty or spirited as the next boy.

Both my kids acted appropriately in kindergarten. The majority of kids do, regardless of sex.

Avtually, the majority act like five year olds, which is not what the expectations are anymore for kndergarten. Little boys have a much more difficult time in kindergarten than little girls.

Ask any kindergarten teacher and they will tell you the exact same thing.

Boys have a much harder time adapting to kindergarten expectations and can sometimes take all year to get there. First grade teachers will say the same thing.

Yes...I noticed that my son's K class is 60% girls and having met some at the classroom visit, I am worried. They are all very mature, excellent readers already, and honestly, look like 6 year olds.

[Anonymous]

My ped told me as long as my twins could sit still and listen to teacher for 15 minutes and were physically same approx size of peers they were ready. Mine are boys born in July and I sent them on time. They are now entering 2nd grade. Yes, I definitely see some issues with socialization compared with their older brother with a fall birthday but they aren't disruptive in class and have kept up academically. IMO, if you are born in the appropriate birthdates you are ready for school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately behaving in an age appropriate way for a five year old, especially boys, is considered too immature for today's kindergarten.

As hard as it is for boys, it must be even more difficult for the random girl who is a little less mature. Moms of well behaved girls are generally so judgemental of others who are not as smart/pretty/well behaved as their own daughters. I really feel for the less mature girls even more than the boys. At least the boys have a sizeable peer group behaving just as naughty or spirited as the next boy.

Both my kids acted appropriately in kindergarten. The majority of kids do, regardless of sex.

Avtually, the majority act like five year olds, which is not what the expectations are anymore for kndergarten. Little boys have a much more difficult time in kindergarten than little girls.

Ask any kindergarten teacher and they will tell you the exact same thing.

Boys have a much harder time adapting to kindergarten expectations and can sometimes take all year to get there. First grade teachers will say the same thing.

Yes...I noticed that my son's K class is 60% girls and having met some at the classroom visit, I am worried. They are all very mature, excellent readers already, and honestly, look like 6 year olds.

Many of them are 6 years old. As a mom of a socially immature girl, I agree with you and a PP who mentioned that some moms of a mature girls don't understand. Many of my friends with boys say that DD is the only kid able to keep up with their boys' high energy levels. DD has never had behavioral issues at school but she is more sensitive and I have to run her ragged in a way that my friends with girls can't relate to.

[Anonymous]

What does it mean to be socially immature?