Grandmother went overboard with slipping cash to me this visit..return it?

My grandparents did that. They could afford it and my parents early on would tell me that it made them happy so just say thank you.

Sometimes grandma would slip me $100 and say don't tell grandpa. 10 minutes later grandpa would do the same and tell me to not tell her. Looking back now I understand how it brought them joy. Especially when I was in college and they knew I could really use it and I didn't have to miss out on a concert or bigger ticket item.

Thank her. Let her know how you're enjoying it if you do something special. She just wants you to be happy.

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08/24/2015 14:40

Subject: Re:Grandmother went overboard with slipping cash to me this visit..return it?

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Seriously? Why is this such a problem for you? Your grandmother wanted to give you the money and so she gave it to you. Say thank you and accept it graciously. Many of us would love to have the problem of overly generous relatives. We have the opposite. Both my parents and my in-laws are pretty well off but very tight-fisted. I paid for most of my own college and we paid for the majority of our wedding. After many arguments and pleading on my part (these are the only things I have ever asked for), my parents made very small contributions to both, but I have had to hear their guilt trips about every single dime they spent ever since. My ILs who were quite well-off are equally tight-fisted. They give my DS nothing but cheap trinkets. And one time they even bragged about how much money they had to us at a time when we could barely pay our bills. We have had more than our share of financial troubles and not one of them has helped, despite having the means to do so. I don't know what it is about some of these baby boomers not being able to part with their money. I think if they could take it with them, they would!

I want to be more like your grandmother when I am older. I will do everything I can to share what I have with my kids and grandkids. Nothing would give me more satisfaction. And I am sure that nothing gives your grandmother more satisfaction.