Do you know your teen's passwords for Instragram and Snapchat?

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.

It's not a law. Not all rules DO apply to everyone. The rules say no eating or drinking on the bus. DD has eaten breakfast on the bus for seven years now. Their point isn't that nobody should eat on the bus, but that they don't want food left on the bus or garbage. So she eats, but doesn't make a mess, and throws out her trash in public trash cans. I'm totally fine with DD breaking that rule. I don't really care how good or bad a parent you think I am.

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.

It's not a law. Not all rules DO apply to everyone. The rules say no eating or drinking on the bus. DD has eaten breakfast on the bus for seven years now. Their point isn't that nobody should eat on the bus, but that they don't want food left on the bus or garbage. So she eats, but doesn't make a mess, and throws out her trash in public trash cans. I'm totally fine with DD breaking that rule. I don't really care how good or bad a parent you think I am.

It is a law. COPA.

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.

It's not a law. Not all rules DO apply to everyone. The rules say no eating or drinking on the bus. DD has eaten breakfast on the bus for seven years now. Their point isn't that nobody should eat on the bus, but that they don't want food left on the bus or garbage. So she eats, but doesn't make a mess, and throws out her trash in public trash cans. I'm totally fine with DD breaking that rule. I don't really care how good or bad a parent you think I am.

Why don't you think rules apply to your family? Why is your DD so special that she's allowed to eat on the bus but the other kids can't? This is part of the reason this generation is stereotyped as selfish and entitled. No one thinks the rules apply to them and people don't seem to have respect for basic manners.

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Something that I have discovered about snapchat that people may not be aware of. Messages can be saved!! That is right, I found out that one of my DD's friends was saving her her messages and she was not aware of it. You can save messages by tapping on the message. Unless you scroll back, you would not be aware of it. And the only way to get it deleted is to ask your friend to delete it!!

So if your child is using snapchat, make them aware of this feature for obvious privacy reasons.

https://support.snapchat.com/a/chat

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20140504082925AAkzAbj

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goode for you for making your kids aware of internet security. So many kids are so blasé about what they put out there on their various social media accounts. When it comes time to apply to college, some of them suddenly realize that they should have been a little more circumspect.


It's good to have ongoing conversations about it through those early teen years. My daughter thought I was a little bit crazy to be always talking about how careful she should be, but there have been a few recent incidents that made her glad that I was always after her to be careful.

Do you mind sharing?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are 15 and 17. I do not have their passwords and do not read their texts or monitor their various accounts. They know the rules and the risks and our expectations for conduct.

I have this same philosophy with my 15 year old. He doesn't have facebook, twitter, or IG but I do know he has snapchat and I'm not sure what else. Every once in a blue moon my husband will ask my son to unlock his phone and let him see his texts but I never do that anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.

It's not a law. Not all rules DO apply to everyone. The rules say no eating or drinking on the bus. DD has eaten breakfast on the bus for seven years now. Their point isn't that nobody should eat on the bus, but that they don't want food left on the bus or garbage. So she eats, but doesn't make a mess, and throws out her trash in public trash cans. I'm totally fine with DD breaking that rule. I don't really care how good or bad a parent you think I am.

Why don't you think rules apply to your family? Why is your DD so special that she's allowed to eat on the bus but the other kids can't? This is part of the reason this generation is stereotyped as selfish and entitled. No one thinks the rules apply to them and people don't seem to have respect for basic manners.

My kid is not a morning person and we spent six years leaving the house at 7am for her to get to school on time. I was not going to make her get up even earlier to sit and eat breakfast. BTW, tons of people eat and drink on the trains. I look at each law/rule as it comes.

DD grew over the summer for example, and now none of her shorts meet the finger-tip rule of her dress code at school. I can't afford to buy her new shorts and we're in CA and have had shorts-weather. At back to school night while chatting with the principal, I asked him how strongly he feels about that rule, and he assured me she can break the rule as long as she's not wearing shorts inappropriate for a little girl (which she never would anyway).

Sorry, I'd rather be me, who doesn't blindly follow without critical thinking, than you who follows any rule or law without thinking about why it's there and whether or not it applies to your situation.

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No social media before age 16 and then I do not require their passwords. It's not realistic anyway - they can make email addresses, accounts, anything without you knowing about it in duplicate form anyway. By age 16 I trust them to know enough about privacy, safety etc. to not be concerned. I will eventually check in on what they post without them knowing to make sure nobody is harassing them but not concerned about what THEY post/comment. I am confident enough in our parenting skills and the constant open discussion we have about social media.

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

Unfortunately, though, since I also think it should be parent discretion, it is a law, and having anyone under 13 on the service is placing instagram in legal risk. You and your family might be responsible, but the law was written for general cases and will not care. [/quote
There are millions of under 13s on IG and snapchat. They don't care. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.

It's not a law. Not all rules DO apply to everyone. The rules say no eating or drinking on the bus. DD has eaten breakfast on the bus for seven years now. Their point isn't that nobody should eat on the bus, but that they don't want food left on the bus or garbage. So she eats, but doesn't make a mess, and throws out her trash in public trash cans. I'm totally fine with DD breaking that rule. I don't really care how good or bad a parent you think I am.

It is a law. COPA.

COPPA requires websites directed at children to get verifiable parental consent prior to collecting personally identifiable information from children. It actually doesn't impose any restrictions or punishments on parents or children themselves if they circumvent these rules.