Do you know your teen's passwords for Instragram and Snapchat?

[Anonymous]

How do you check for more than one acct on IG? No reason to suspect anything, but isn't it possible for a teen to have one clean acct for parents, and then another acct the parents don't know about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you check for more than one acct on IG? No reason to suspect anything, but isn't it possible for a teen to have one clean acct for parents, and then another acct the parents don't know about?

If they have multiple email addresses they can have multiple twitter or insta accounts. You'd be surprised how many kids, especially girls, have "private" accounts in addition to the ones their parents know about. So to answer your question, absolutely yes it's possible and happens more than parents would like to think.

[Anonymous]

We don't check everything. I do peer over shoulders and often ask to see what they are looking at etc. and know the basic passwords to check texts and Instagram, etc. And they know not to refuse access or we will take the phone away. But the bottom line is I lecture both DCs (one DD and one DS) all the time about Internet safety, that nothing is private, that snapchat doesn't actually disappear, etc. and take screenshots of things to prove my point. So the bottom line is that they understand and are much more consumers of media - rarely posting anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you check for more than one acct on IG? No reason to suspect anything, but isn't it possible for a teen to have one clean acct for parents, and then another acct the parents don't know about?

If they have multiple email addresses they can have multiple twitter or insta accounts. You'd be surprised how many kids, especially girls, have "private" accounts in addition to the ones their parents know about. So to answer your question, absolutely yes it's possible and happens more than parents would like to think.

My daughter has a friend who has 4 IG accounts. She has very strict parents and they are clueless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, one child stays signed on to Instagram on my laptop and the other on my iPad. They post absurdly boring photos of the dog or popular entertainment people. It's been well over a year and I have never, ever seen anything inappropriate from them. I didn't expect to and that's not why I look. I have however certainly learned a lot about other people's children from what they post though!

Me too. The girls adding filters to look prettier, squeezing their boobs together and then asking guys to rate them. Ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you check for more than one acct on IG? No reason to suspect anything, but isn't it possible for a teen to have one clean acct for parents, and then another acct the parents don't know about?

If they have multiple email addresses they can have multiple twitter or insta accounts. You'd be surprised how many kids, especially girls, have "private" accounts in addition to the ones their parents know about. So to answer your question, absolutely yes it's possible and happens more than parents would like to think.

My daughter has a friend who has 4 IG accounts. She has very strict parents and they are clueless

Is there some way they could find out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you check for more than one acct on IG? No reason to suspect anything, but isn't it possible for a teen to have one clean acct for parents, and then another acct the parents don't know about?

If they have multiple email addresses they can have multiple twitter or insta accounts. You'd be surprised how many kids, especially girls, have "private" accounts in addition to the ones their parents know about. So to answer your question, absolutely yes it's possible and happens more than parents would like to think.

My daughter has a friend who has 4 IG accounts. She has very strict parents and they are clueless

Is there some way they could find out?

If you are looking the best way is to check major email accounts for sign ins. Yahoo, gmail, aol, etc....
You need a separate email account for each one

Check their MAIL app for the same

Check the IG account

Check the IG app for separate log-ins

Check history on phone and other devices

Parental controls so they can't delete history and take a look here and there.

If they are barely on what you think is their main IG account. If friends rarely respond.

Check IG notifications.

[Anonymous]

My kids are 15 and 17. I do not have their passwords and do not read their texts or monitor their various accounts. They know the rules and the risks and our expectations for conduct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 15 and 17. I do not have their passwords and do not read their texts or monitor their various accounts. They know the rules and the risks and our expectations for conduct.

+1.

Kids range from 12 to college graduate. Never had a problem. But I'm a lot more permissive than most parents about what I think is ok to do/post online.

[Anonymous]

No - our kids don't have social media accounts. Before anyone says that a "hater is gonna, hate, hate..." just know that I spend my days in cybersecurity and there is no way in hell that I will let our kids get on social media until they are 16 -- and then only if we think their judgement is sound enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No - our kids don't have social media accounts. Before anyone says that a "hater is gonna, hate, hate..." just know that I spend my days in cybersecurity and there is no way in hell that I will let our kids get on social media until they are 16 -- and then only if we think their judgement is sound enough.

There's every chance that they don't. But there's also every chance that they do and, because of your rules, won't feel they can come to you if there is ever an issue with their online activities. Sixteen is rather late... don't clubs at their high school organize many things mainly through social media anyway?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

Unfortunately, though, since I also think it should be parent discretion, it is a law, and having anyone under 13 on the service is placing instagram in legal risk. You and your family might be responsible, but the law was written for general cases and will not care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could probably guess DD's passwords for those two. She is a rising 7th grader. We follow each other on Instagram. I don't care about Snapchat. We discuss internet safety more than she'd like - probably once a month. And I've made noise when I don't like comments people have left on her Instagram pictures - like the guy who just wrote "N*gga" on each of her pics. I know she wants to have a lot of followers, but I told her she doesn't need that type of follower - she can find yet one more nice tween girl who also likes Arianna Grande and Miranda Sings to follow her instead.

I've posted this before, but one thing I do to read DD's texts, is to tell her "Go wash the dishes, I'll keep you company!" and then when she gets a text, I play secretary. "Ella wants to know if you're going to be home Saturday, and then sent a picture of poop. What emoji do you want me to send back?" DD knows damn well I'm looking through her texts when we're doing this, and lets it go, because she knows damn well I could say "Oh, you don't want me to see your texts?? Then you don't need to text anyone."

But she can delete any text once it comes in. Same with Snapchat. Gone immediately. And as a rising 7th grader, is she even 13 yet. Because before that you are not allowed to have an Instagram.

I view that 13 age thing as a guideline, rather than a law. *I* am her parent and *I* say she can have an Instagram account. I understand that Instagram thinks it shouldn't be for kids under 13, and decided my particular kid can handle it. I know my kid well, and she's not sending pics of her nonexistent boobs to boys on either account. The only text stream she deletes is from one particular girl who curses like a drunk sailor. Really, I'm on it.

It is not a guideline and you suck as a parent. I guess you are teaching your kids that rules don't apply to your family.