Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

[Anonymous]

No. If a person who cheats can own their actions, take responsibility for them, deal with the consequences, and understand why they made such a hurtful choice...then I don't think that person would cheat again. Because they have worked hard to find the root of the problem in themselves and address it.

Someone who, however, minimizes their actions, sweeps it under the rug, doesn't look to "why," blames others, doesn't have to deal with any real consequences...then yes, that person will probably cheat again. Because they haven't addressed why they did it in the first place.

- A wife who cheated and will never make such a hurtful and selfish choice again

[Anonymous]

I don't think so necessarily. I cheated on my ex with my DH because I wasn't getting what I needed from him. I am
More mature now, and I would never do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think?

My cousin cheated with her now husband while he was married. She knew full well he was married with children but she and the guy were "in love" and "soul mates". Its six years later and she was recently contacted by his other woman... who was pissed off when she found out about other other women.

I told my cousin what did you expect? You set the expectations of what was okay and not okay when you cheated with him to begin with!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. If a person who cheats can own their actions, take responsibility for them, deal with the consequences, and understand why they made such a hurtful choice...then I don't think that person would cheat again. Because they have worked hard to find the root of the problem in themselves and address it.

Someone who, however, minimizes their actions, sweeps it under the rug, doesn't look to "why," blames others, doesn't have to deal with any real consequences...then yes, that person will probably cheat again. Because they haven't addressed why they did it in the first place.

- A wife who cheated and will never make such a hurtful and selfish choice again

+1, verbatim, from another wife who had a one night stand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. If a person who cheats can own their actions, take responsibility for them, deal with the consequences, and understand why they made such a hurtful choice...then I don't think that person would cheat again. Because they have worked hard to find the root of the problem in themselves and address it.

Someone who, however, minimizes their actions, sweeps it under the rug, doesn't look to "why," blames others, doesn't have to deal with any real consequences...then yes, that person will probably cheat again. Because they haven't addressed why they did it in the first place.

- A wife who cheated and will never make such a hurtful and selfish choice again

How did you find the root of the problem and address it?