Using our address for friends child to go to the public school we are in bounds for

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Anonymous wrote:The OP says that her friends' child "is" being bullied at another school. It's July. School isn't in session. Any bullying that happened last year may actually be water under the bridge. It sounds to me like the OP's friends just want to move their kid to a better school and are using "bullying" as a justification for doing so.

Ding, ding, ding.

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Anonymous wrote:If they live in DC, I'm not seeing why they could be fined for tuition. But it's fraud and you're making yourself an accessory to fraud. I doubt it's the kind that will any of you behind bars but it's still worth considering weighed against the obvious good you're seeking to do here. Imagine if one of your HH members wants a security clearance or wants to run for office. These are the little things that will come back to haunt you. Your friend has other channels to get redress, including escalating his/her concerns up the chain of hierarchy, as well as many OOB and charter school options, of which some surely have space to offer.
On a more practical side, your friend will have to use your address to communicate with the school so as not to be found out, having transcripts sent there, as well as other school communications. So it's quite a scheme you're being asked to agree to here.

The child's parent would also need to get some official, non-school paperwork at the house - car registration/driver's license/utility bill,/rental agreement to (falsely) prove it is the family address.

Don't do it.

How will they prove residency at your address? Are you switching the utilities into their names? They should go through the proper channels to get the child transferred. They can file a grievance if the principal has been unresponsive to their needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for everyone's response except those that were nasty about it. I have not said yes and will say no. I am uncomfortable with it and my gut tells me not to. I feel sad that this boy is being bullied but I think they should try to go the legal route to get him to change schools.

Trust your gut and help them go through the proper channels. If you unsuccessful (let's be real...this is good ole' DCPS after all) then you can step into desperation mode.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi we have friends who child is being bullied at another school and would like to use our address for a different middle school, the one we are inbounds for. I do not like being dishonest in the first place but also feel like I would like to help my friend. What are the reprocusions form doing this??

Obviously, you are perfectly comfortable being dishonest, or you wouldn't even be considering this.

I hope YOU get caught and exposed to everyone in your neighborhood. They should print public lists of people like you.

Wtf I have not done anything and was asking a question... You nasty little person. Why don't you post your name and a place and time to meet and let you say those mean spirited things to my face pussy

Wow, grabbing my popcorn

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Ha ha, good for you, OP. You're not taking the mean posters lying down!

As for your friend's problem, I would not take this responsibility on their behalf.
That being said, this is exactly what my DH's parents did! They used a friend's address to get DH out of a horrible school where nobody did anything about the thugs that bullied him. It was that day and age, and an iffy neighborhood to boot.

However in this area and in 2015, I think the parents can try other avenues before resorting to lies.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for everyone's response except those that were nasty about it. I have not said yes and will say no. I am uncomfortable with it and my gut tells me not to. I feel sad that this boy is being bullied but I think they should try to go the legal route to get him to change schools.

I think this is the correct course of action. Honestly, it's just not that easy any more anyway. She would need a signed lease, proof that she is actually paying the lease (cancelled checks or similar), and utilities in her name. It's not a can of worms that I would want to open, personally.

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Anonymous wrote:How will you explain to your children that it is ok for you to lie to the school but it is not ok for them to lie?

The parents need to push their current school about the social situation. They can even give the principal and easy out by asking for transfer papers to another school. But please do not show your kids that you are ok with lies like this.

This. You are a role model. Kids are watching.

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Don't do this, OP.

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I have a question about residency and school as well, though for me, not a friend. DC is not zoned for our close-by middle school, but for one much farther away. The close-by school is not only a much easier commute for us, it is also has a better reputation, so sought after an no lottery movement. I have found a reasonably-priced, but v. small apartment that is inbounds for this school and is just a few blocks from our place. I am thinking about renting it, paying the utilities, changing the address for my driver's license and thus getting DC to the closer, easier for us, and better school. We won't live there full-time, but I can walk over and get the mail, etc every day. I am surprised - and a bit ashamed - that I would go to these lengths, but am considering it. What would happen to if the school found out? What about when DC's classmates or parents come to visit our bigger, current place? What are our liabilities? Thanks in advance to DCUMers who reply without attacking.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a question about residency and school as well, though for me, not a friend. DC is not zoned for our close-by middle school, but for one much farther away. The close-by school is not only a much easier commute for us, it is also has a better reputation, so sought after an no lottery movement. I have found a reasonably-priced, but v. small apartment that is inbounds for this school and is just a few blocks from our place. I am thinking about renting it, paying the utilities, changing the address for my driver's license and thus getting DC to the closer, easier for us, and better school. We won't live there full-time, but I can walk over and get the mail, etc every day. I am surprised - and a bit ashamed - that I would go to these lengths, but am considering it. What would happen to if the school found out? What about when DC's classmates or parents come to visit our bigger, current place? What are our liabilities? Thanks in advance to DCUMers who reply without attacking.

Question: Considering the price of rents here in D.C. why would you do this when you just as easily use that same money to send your child to a private school? Something isn't adding up for me but then I am not the a math genius either.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a question about residency and school as well, though for me, not a friend. DC is not zoned for our close-by middle school, but for one much farther away. The close-by school is not only a much easier commute for us, it is also has a better reputation, so sought after an no lottery movement. I have found a reasonably-priced, but v. small apartment that is inbounds for this school and is just a few blocks from our place. I am thinking about renting it, paying the utilities, changing the address for my driver's license and thus getting DC to the closer, easier for us, and better school. We won't live there full-time, but I can walk over and get the mail, etc every day. I am surprised - and a bit ashamed - that I would go to these lengths, but am considering it. What would happen to if the school found out? What about when DC's classmates or parents come to visit our bigger, current place? What are our liabilities? Thanks in advance to DCUMers who reply without attacking.

This is not legal. If one of your child's parents gets suspicious and reports you, and DCPS figures it out (big ifs) you could be forced to move your child to the less desirable school.

Why not just take $ you'd spent on the apt and your mortgage and get a new place IB to the school you want?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a question about residency and school as well, though for me, not a friend. DC is not zoned for our close-by middle school, but for one much farther away. The close-by school is not only a much easier commute for us, it is also has a better reputation, so sought after an no lottery movement. I have found a reasonably-priced, but v. small apartment that is inbounds for this school and is just a few blocks from our place. I am thinking about renting it, paying the utilities, changing the address for my driver's license and thus getting DC to the closer, easier for us, and better school. We won't live there full-time, but I can walk over and get the mail, etc every day. I am surprised - and a bit ashamed - that I would go to these lengths, but am considering it. What would happen to if the school found out? What about when DC's classmates or parents come to visit our bigger, current place? What are our liabilities? Thanks in advance to DCUMers who reply without attacking.

I don't believe anyone with any common sense would post this as a legitimate question on here. What do you think? Can you handle being deceitful to yourself, your children, school friends and others? Really, I can't believe this is a legitimate post. As if anyone here is going to say, sure do it!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a question about residency and school as well, though for me, not a friend. DC is not zoned for our close-by middle school, but for one much farther away. The close-by school is not only a much easier commute for us, it is also has a better reputation, so sought after an no lottery movement. I have found a reasonably-priced, but v. small apartment that is inbounds for this school and is just a few blocks from our place. I am thinking about renting it, paying the utilities, changing the address for my driver's license and thus getting DC to the closer, easier for us, and better school. We won't live there full-time, but I can walk over and get the mail, etc every day. I am surprised - and a bit ashamed - that I would go to these lengths, but am considering it. What would happen to if the school found out? What about when DC's classmates or parents come to visit our bigger, current place? What are our liabilities? Thanks in advance to DCUMers who reply without attacking.

My two cents

What would happen to if the school found out? And they actively investigated you? Depending on how willing you are to go you could easily create a domestic drama story -- i.e. separated parents or something which would probably end the investigation.

I'm not going to judge or attack you. Your biggest risk is other busybodies who will go in for the kill once they find out about your situation and make it a personal mission to take you down. DCPS is much more likely to go after someone who actually doesn't live in the district, as they should. But again, the wolves of DC and, guessing you are talking about Deal may dress nicely but they are rabidly vicious.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never do that, OP. Instead, I would advise the friends to go to central office and get a new placement. I'd start with the chancellor's response team. I'd also probably ask my city council member to get involved.

It is July 31. It's too late to beg favors at this point. Yes they are supposed to take care of children in bad situations, but I don't think this would happen quickly, if at all.

It's not asking for a favor. This is the process for when someone is being bullied.

+1 it is called a safety transfer.

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Do it, OP. Chances are next to nothing that you'll be caught. Everybody advising you not to is just jealous that they don't have friends in better districts whose addresses they can use.