Does your DH with a hairy back take his shirt off for swimming?

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Anonymous wrote:I love a hairy guy. I know that I am probably in the minority, but I find it sexy and manly. Guys with little to no body hair kind of creep me out.

Anyway, I have cellulite on my legs and I still go to the pool. I like to consider it a community service. Other women can look at me and feel better about themselves, if they so choose. Sure I'd love to have a perfect body, but that isn't going to happen. Life is about embracing what we are given and rolling with it.

I hope he can find a way (maybe therapy) to get over this and not let life and fun experiences pass him by because of low self esteem.

Thanks PP, I guess you're my role model. Cellulite is one of those things, like a hairy back, that people snark on. How did you make peace with your self and get so confident? I am OP and I am innately, or was raised to be very confident. DH, on the other hand has a passive aggressive, appearances conscious mom who shamed him quite a bit. He was also, like 11 when it grew in, and a foot taller than the other kids, and just does not seem to have been able to make peace with it!

PP here -- I had great parents who focused more on encouraging us to be well-rounded, kind people than how we looked. Admittedly, I was a skinny kid and teen, so I didn't have to deal with those issues as an adolescent. In my limited experience, people who grow up heavy or ashamed of their appearance for some other reason (usually being shamed by a parent or classmate), have a much harder time shedding those self-esteem issues. When we are young, we don't have the capacity to accept or process mean comments. Ultimately, if people shun someone for being heavy, having a hairy back, or being unattractive -- the problem is theirs and not the problem of the person they are deriding. I'm also pretty sure that most people are far more worried about who is looking at them than they are about looking at me.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone cares about being hairy, especially if its just stubly and he doesn't look like a woolly mammoth.

I have very hairy legs and sometimes shave/trim them (I just don't like being hairy) even though I many girls think its weird. I don't care what they think. If someone is going to be judgemental about what another does with their body, or how they look, then screw 'em.

So, screw you?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone cares about being hairy, especially if its just stubly and he doesn't look like a woolly mammoth.

I have very hairy legs and sometimes shave/trim them (I just don't like being hairy) even though I many girls think its weird. I don't care what they think. If someone is going to be judgemental about what another does with their body, or how they look, then screw 'em.

So, screw you?

No, I was talking about how I think Other people view back hair and how I definitely don't think he should be worried about stuble. I wasn't talking about how I view them because I don't care if people look like a woolly mammoth or have back stuble.

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I married a hairy Italian. I love him just the way he was built. He said he was mortified as a teen to have to deal w it, but as a grown man he seems to have gotten past it. Truly, op, anyone who's a good person does. Not. Judge. The media is simply cruel and teaches immature people how to be cruel about sh!T that does not matter.

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Anonymous wrote:I love a hairy guy. I know that I am probably in the minority, but I find it sexy and manly. Guys with little to no body hair kind of creep me out.

Anyway, I have cellulite on my legs and I still go to the pool. I like to consider it a community service. Other women can look at me and feel better about themselves, if they so choose. Sure I'd love to have a perfect body, but that isn't going to happen. Life is about embracing what we are given and rolling with it.

I hope he can find a way (maybe therapy) to get over this and not let life and fun experiences pass him by because of low self esteem.

Me too! I've been watching old frasier episodes. I don't really like Kelsey Grammer but that man has a pelt!
I trim my husband's back hair a bit, he used to nair but decided he didn't need to anymore. Then again, I don't shave so we're both weird

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32 yo man here. hairy. hate it. would pay anything to change it. still go in the pool though. hate body hair. hate it on myself, hate it on women i date. gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Good lord. My husband bares his hairy back, chest and arms without a second thought.

+1. There is so much weirdness these days about body hair. To each his own.

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I am male. I have a lot of hair....head, face, chest, back, arms, legs, and not without I am 50, ears.... I do not shave anything except for a bit on my face (I have a beard.)

I never wear shirts while swimming.

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I had no idea this was a "thing". My DH has a hairy back and wears a rash guard because he has really fair skin and doesn't want to burn. If the shade is over the pool he'll remove his shirt. Nobody has commented on his hairy back.

We're all grown ups and no longer in middle school.

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He should do more laser hair removal.

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My husband is this way, though he has recently gotten back into the pool for lap swimming with the help of Nair.

I just accepted that i go to the pool with my kids and he does something else to bond with them.

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My DH sometimes wears an athletic shirt, but not a rash guard, in the pool. He isn't even particularly hairy for an American but he's East Asian and extremely hairy for his ethnic group. He has shaved it which I think is ridiculous. But nothing except laziness ever stops him from getting in the pool with the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH wears a rashguard as do many guys. What about more laser treatment?

My DH also wears a rash guard, and he is not the only adult wearing in the swimming pool

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Anonymous wrote:My DH wears a rashguard as do many guys. What about more laser treatment?

My DH also wears a rash guard, and he is not the only adult wearing in the swimming pool

My DH is scared of the long term consequences of taking too much sun and normally wears a rash guard. He doesn't have any back hair

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I don't understand, OP. Why does he feel he has to shave and why doesn't he want to get in the pool even after shaving???
He's lucky not to be a woman and be pressured to always have smooth legs and armpits in public!

I'm not a fan of hairy backs, but if I saw a hairy man at the pool, I would just go on my merry way, firmly convinced that he had every right to be in the pool, just like me!