Anonymous wrote:
My guess is that she is likely dating other people. I met her on an online dating site, and I am well aware that women get multiple guys contacting them every day. With that kind of volume, there is always something better around the corner, so why not wait things out, play the field, and enjoy all of these guys chasing me.
So anyway, I am going to cancel this weekend's plans to regain the upper hand and I have no doubt this will get her wondering. Start seeing other people and put her way on the back burner. I just refuse to be a pawn and be played the fool. It's just so confusing because our dates are great and we have great chemistry.
Give me advice. How long does the guy have to chase the girl before the girl starts to reciprocate a bit? Initiate contact, suggest dates, etc. I have never had to go to these lengths before.
Yes, very likely she is seeing several people.
I had a bit of a crush on a woman who I think liked me OK, though in hindsight I came to see that I revealed something very early on which was a bit of a dealbreaker for her (she's deeply religious and I'm essentially an atheist). She liked me though and I had a crush on her. I let it drag on for...I dunno, 6-7 dates? Then I pressed hard once for a kiss, and she reacted like she was kissing her brother.
What I learned: if you aren't to the point of an obvious expression of interest after three dates, drop the rope. If she picks it up, fine, you know she was shy; otherwise, don't waste your time. I think you're past that point already. Cancel, don't contact her again, and don't expect to hear from her.
Good advice. Can I ask if you paid for all of the 6-7 dates? If so how long do you think she would have let that go on?
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