Mother's Day pressure from MIL

[Anonymous]

She's just trying to be included and doesn't realize it is offensive to you. Tell her it's offensive or just be gracious and move on.

Seriously, this is all you have to worry about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's just trying to be included and doesn't realize it is offensive to you. Tell her it's offensive or just be gracious and move on.

Seriously, this is all you have to worry about?

One of my children has a very serious medical issue that impacts her quality of life daily and that she may never recover from. So no. It isn't the only thing I worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's just trying to be included and doesn't realize it is offensive to you. Tell her it's offensive or just be gracious and move on.

Seriously, this is all you have to worry about?

One of my children has a very serious medical issue that impacts her quality of life daily and that she may never recover from. So no. It isn't the only thing I worry about.

Well, I guess I've been told...

[Anonymous]

LOL. OP is quite the bundle of joy.

[Anonymous]

uou are overreacting. The holiday is important to her and she is trying to include you. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone. Of course some of you are spot on that Mothers Day is standing in for other tensions, namely, the way MIL ignores our wishes on many (more important) things. I think part of her point is indeed what one poster mentioned - that not honoring me will make kids feel different. I think DH and I are fortunate that we are raising racially and culturally mixed kids in an environment where being different is OK. I think this is hard for MIL to fathom, partly generational and partly where she lives. But that aside, this discussion has helped me think through what I am actually upset about.. So thank you everyone!

For what it's worth, my three siblings and I were raised in such a family (racially and culturally-mixed) and it was uncomfortable not fitting in, although we didn't complain to our parents to avoid hurting their feelings. It's stressful when your friends ask you if your family did so-and-so and you either fib or tell them that your family doesn't do that. A little accommodation really helps.

I never cared. I actually thought it was cool that we never made a fuss over stupid commercial holidays.