Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks all. The guilt got the best of me and I went over shortly after posting. I took a fruit tart, smiled and cheerfully wished my MIL a happy mother's day. Spent some time with her and now we're all back home.
I appreciate the sentiments here, it's been a rough year and maybe I'm hormonal or something but the grief just really hit hard. I was able to keep it together all day, but I cried all the way back home. Something about watching everyone interacting and knowing that my kids and my husband never met my mom and had that same kind of bond with her as they do with MIL just cuts so deep.
I don't mind that my DH and kids spent a lot of time with MIL today. We had breakfast together as a family, are together every weekend and I'm a SAHM so have all day with my kids everyday. I'm happy that he can spend that time with her, she won't be around forever and I want him to have these memories. I just didn't want to participate in it. I'll smile and do my part every year, I just wish it wasn't so damn hard.
Happy Mother's Day everyone.
There are ways you can bring your mother into these celebrations. Tell the stories the night before. Sit as a family, go through an old album. Play that song she loved or make her fondly-remembered breakfast. The very best part of being a mom is establishing meaningful traditions. This is important to you, so bring your mother in to these celebrations. Bring her prized dessert to gatherings. Share her with your family. Maybe this way Mother's Day won't be so painful for you.
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