Husband having affair and did not put my name on the title deed-any legal recourse?

[Anonymous]

So scary - I'm really sorry, OP. You need a lawyer right away; this sounds very complicated and your residency is of utmost important with kids involved. Never mind all the stupid bullies on here getting their jollies from insulting you and attacking your choices. If you are a foreign resident and your kids were born here and your husband has citizenship, you have much bigger concerns than who gets the house. Please get a lawyer, stat. A really good one. Best of luck to; I really feel for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP HERE.Thank you all for your input. I'm just si overwhelmed. I am a SAHM again. We both decided that the tween and teen years should have parent cover. Also we are older parents so I am now 48 and I've cut ties with the company that kept my job open through both my long maternity leaves because I didnt think I would ever go back.

I am on my husband's visa and a divorce/separation would require me to leave the country in 120 days. All 3 kids are in very good hard to get into schools and I don't think it's fair on them to uproot them from all that's familiar and from their father whom they love. A Frightful mess. I really can not believe this is my life.

Seriously OP. CONSULT WITH A LAWYER! Wish you good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP im so sorry and please ignore the judgy types on here. I assume your serial cheater abusive husband works for an IFI. If so please call their family networks and ask for domestic abuse hotlines and specific lawyer recs.

I was on a similar yet reverse side situation (wanted divorce from my visa dependent spouse) and found that both the divorce and immigration lawyers I consulted were not very knowledgeable of all the intricacies involved in this kind of visa and how custody and divorce would work here. Let alone division of assets. What if your H decides to unilaterally divorce you now?
You will be caught in a very hard situation. This is what I'd focus on now: Start saving in a separate account, document everything and write a journal, file police reports if needed,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP HERE.Thank you all for your input. I'm just si overwhelmed. I am a SAHM again. We both decided that the tween and teen years should have parent cover. Also we are older parents so I am now 48 and I've cut ties with the company that kept my job open through both my long maternity leaves because I didnt think I would ever go back.

I am on my husband's visa and a divorce/separation would require me to leave the country in 120 days. All 3 kids are in very good hard to get into schools and I don't think it's fair on them to uproot them from all that's familiar and from their father whom they love. A Frightful mess. I really can not believe this is my life.

OP,

A big virtual hug to you! I am also on my husband's visa and the one time I seriously considered divorcing my husband this factored heavily into the equation. The sad reality is that non-citizens cannot get the same protections as citizens, and this hurts dependents in abusive relationships, private and professional (I've known many foreign grad students forced to work like slaves because their visa status was held over their heads).

The problem right now is not the deed to this house. The real problem is to find a job again, any job, that gives you your own work visa. I know how hard it is to get a job! Call in all favors, pull all the strings you can. Then you don't have to leave the country if you get divorced.

Best of luck to you. I hope not to be in your shoes. I've come so close in the past!

No - Foreign students are not FORCED to work as slaves. All CHOOSE to come here fro grad school. Again, it is their CHOICE to be in this country on a student visa and work like slaves.

[Anonymous]

If he asks you to stay and work things out, tell him to first put you on the Deed. Then determine what you are going to do.