Comment if you are trying for your FIRST baby

[Anonymous]

I very much recommend that those trying for their first visit the "infertility" subreddit on reddit. It is very sensitive and the community is almost entirely people working to have their first. It's a really supportive community too.

When I was trying for my first I would not have been able to handle this message board as I feel like most people already have 1 kid. It is so much easier (I think at least) to handle IF issues when you have one at home. I am trying for my second now and dealing with the same issues, but am okay if it does not work out (at least that's what I'm telling myself). That was definitely not the case on the first go round.

Wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

Good thread

I'm 33, husband 31. Unexplained for 4 years. 3 IUIs, 1 IVF resulting in OHSS requiring that we freeze all our embryos (9 all grade AA). First FET was a BFN. Second FET was a chemical. We then took a 2 year break as I was a total wreck emotionally. As a last minute thought we did PGS before our 3rd FET. No longer unexplained infertility... every single one of our "perfect" embryos were chrom. abnomal (most had trisomy 21). We just sent second biopsies to Natera to determine if it was maternal or paternal. They couldn't figure it out. We then did ANOTHER fresh IVF as a shot in the dark for normal embryos... (again, we don't know if we'd need an egg or sperm donor) Just got my Day 6 report that 3 made it to freeze (of 16). We immediately biopsied and are waiting for the results. As there's no way of knowing if it's an issue with me or my husband (and both our karyotypes are normal), we'll have to move straight to embyro adoption.

Miserable. Isolated. Alone. Overweight. In debt. OVER IT.

[Anonymous]

34. Did 9 IUIs but after a miscarriage and the rest BFNs, decided IVF wasn't the right path and we're now on to adoption.

[Anonymous]

36, in TWW of second IVF. DOR, low AMh. been trying for two years next month for #!. Very doubtful it will ever happen.

[Anonymous]

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/12/23/health/with-in-vitro-fertilization-persistence-pays-off-study-suggests.html?_r=0
I know this article has been circulated before. But the point is that IVF is not a magic bullet. It may take numerous attempts and not everyone can afford it.
I am trying to stay hopeful during my first cycle. My numbers look good so far but there is a long journey ahead while we try for #1 (and perhaps only).

[Anonymous]

I'm the 3/22/15 with Hashimotos. So it's been almost a year since I posted on this thread and I still have no baby. I'm almost 35, had a fresh unsuccessful cycle last August and and unsuccessful FET in November. Doctor told us both to lose weight and see a dietitian at least three months prior to ivf #2. I lost 18 pounds and DH 20. We'll start stimming end of March and will be testing this time.

[Anonymous]

I'm 34 with lean PCOS/no issues with DH. Trying for 3 years (on and off). 4 clomid with TI, 3 IUI with injectables and now starting IVF. I've also done acupuncture on and off for stress management and b/c I figure it can't hurt. Good luck everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 with lean PCOS/no issues with DH. Trying for 3 years (on and off). 4 clomid with TI, 3 IUI with injectables and now starting IVF. I've also done acupuncture on and off for stress management and b/c I figure it can't hurt. Good luck everyone!

Very similar as the pp. I'm 35 with pcos but thin (went misdiagnosed for years). Have completed 5 IUIs. Thinking about starting acupuncture. Good luck ladies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am 39, have been trying for 5 years. 3 IUIs and 8 IVFs, all BFN. Completed my first DE transfer last Wednesday, beta is next Friday. So far I don't feel anything different than during any of the failed cycles. I think I am numb and affraid to let even a glimpse of hope for fear to be super disapointed on Friday. Infertility sucks big time.

This is me a year ago. My baby is sleeping next to me. After so many painful years and so many BFNs I regret I did not try donor egg sooner. But then I would not have had this exact baby! So I guess I have no regrets and am counting my blessings that I as able to afford all these cycles and treatments .

[Anonymous]

5 fresh OE IVFS; 1 FET. All negative. Donor egg is next.

[Anonymous]

Just pointing out that most folks on this board who talk about having had success were like you not long ago and finally got lucky. They keep coming back to this board after they decide to try for another because they can offer support and encouragement to those starting out or still trying!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just pointing out that most folks on this board who talk about having had success were like you not long ago and finally got lucky. They keep coming back to this board after they decide to try for another because they can offer support and encouragement to those starting out or still trying!

NP here. I have to say that I am grateful for the moms who have had success and still take the time to read our threads and comment on this board. It has helped me a lot. I hope to be successful soon, and I hope I am as kind as some of the moms on this board have been to me as I go through my process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:34. Did 9 IUIs but after a miscarriage and the rest BFNs, decided IVF wasn't the right path and we're now on to adoption.

Adoption was my lucky charm after 5 years of treatments as a single person. I could not live my 2 year old any more than if she was my DNA. In fact, she is far better than anyone I could produce. Best wishes to you!! And, to everyone else, as well. I hope you all get your baby, whether through adoption/treatments,,,,,

[Anonymous]

Live/love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good thread

I'm 33, husband 31. Unexplained for 4 years. 3 IUIs, 1 IVF resulting in OHSS requiring that we freeze all our embryos (9 all grade AA). First FET was a BFN. Second FET was a chemical. We then took a 2 year break as I was a total wreck emotionally. As a last minute thought we did PGS before our 3rd FET. No longer unexplained infertility... every single one of our "perfect" embryos were chrom. abnomal (most had trisomy 21). We just sent second biopsies to Natera to determine if it was maternal or paternal. They couldn't figure it out. We then did ANOTHER fresh IVF as a shot in the dark for normal embryos... (again, we don't know if we'd need an egg or sperm donor) Just got my Day 6 report that 3 made it to freeze (of 16). We immediately biopsied and are waiting for the results. As there's no way of knowing if it's an issue with me or my husband (and both our karyotypes are normal), we'll have to move straight to embyro adoption.

Miserable. Isolated. Alone. Overweight. In debt. OVER IT.

You are not alone.