Is this guy just screwing with me?
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Anonymous
| In the end, it really doesn't matter why he's doing this. It's not a healthy way to build a relationship. That by itself means he's not for you. Try to move on. |
Anonymous
| Ignore him. If he wants to date, he'll tell you. If he doesn't, then you move on. |
Anonymous
| This people are crazy ..just confront him and ask what going on... |
Anonymous
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I think he is screwing with you and that you need to squash any hope of ever having a future with him.
He sounds like a jerk to me. He throws the word "love" around so callously, like it is just that to him...A word, nothing more. The fact that he is only telling you he loves you in the evenings, likely after having downed a few is not a good sign and does not bode well for you. Dodge the bullet NOW and since you are no longer in the same State, it will be much easier to forget him. You deserve so much better than this scrooge. |
Anonymous
| I've taken your advice and have not responded to any late night texts. There have been no more love you, miss you messages. He continues to send emaIls and texts late, but nothing romantic. At around 4 this morning he posted a bunch of stuff on my Facebook timeline, then deleted it. I know because I get an email when anyone posts on my timeline or comments on any of my posts. I think he's got some sort of problem. |
Anonymous
| Yes, OP. Msybe a drinking problem, or something else. Not the behavior of someone in a place for a healthy relationship, or any relationship at all. |
Anonymous
| Move on. There's nothing to try to figure out. |
Anonymous
| I'm moving on. I'm proud of myself for not responding to his late night messages anymore. I'm getting out and doing stuff now. But should I tell this guy he needs heLp? I think he will just shrug it off. |
Anonymous
| You were in a senior position to him so he will not ask you out, but you can ask him out. It a different dynamics now days. |
Anonymous
I'm proud of you for ignoring him too! No, you don't need to tell him he needs help. You aren't the only person in his life and he is not your problem. You're moving in the right direction, so just keep going. |
Anonymous
| You saw love, he saw nookie. Stop pining away for someone you really didn't know. |
Anonymous
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Op, I think he was messing with you and testing the waters.. Until you responded, and he withdrew.... And is putting random stuff up on Facebook, probably BC he knows he misled you.
I am coming out of a similar situation, albeit where someone who was senior to me and a guy, made a lot of comments that eventually got me all scrambled up at a sensitive point. Thank god nothing ever happened. Guys love the thrill of the chase, love to mess with your head, and then ...? Its just him stroking his ego. Be glad you didn't get too drunk and actually act out any of your fantasies. I feel you though. I am actually a little heartbroken over my situation. I still see him a lot though now there's an icy distance. |
Anonymous
| Who posts pictures of exes and titles them Love?? A stalker maybe? A creep? That is really strange. Are you sure this guy is all there OP? Wtf?? |
Anonymous
| The late night "miss you" messages have resumed. I think he actually likes me romantically but won't do anything about it. Kind of tired of this now and I've lost interest, but it's just weird. |
Anonymous
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OP, I understand your situation and can relate. I'm sorry...it is a hard position to be in.
You are, most likely, a kind, empathetic and caring woman. Unfortunately, he most likely, has deep seated mental issues. I have a friend like this. Former friend, I should say. Very similar behavior to your guy. Really, it's not you, it's HIM. It IS them. It hurts but the best thing to do is ice them out. There is so much better ones out there than him! I found a better one, married and have a sweet baby. He, on the other hand, is in a relationship where she is taking him for every dime he's got...but she's the one. Lol. |