Dry housewarming, worried guests will bring alcohol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people we know don't consume alcohol. Why would you expect everyone to drink? If you cannot entertain yourself for a few hours without alcohol then perhaps you should stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

No, it doesn't. Ditto for the kids and the sweets. You have a very narrow-minded view of how things should be.

Yes, actually it does. The cultural norm in America, like it or not, is to serve cake at a child's party and alcohol at an evening party. It's polite to let guests know in advance if this is a dry party since most people will bring wine. Save your guests the embarrassment, OP, and let them know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people we know don't consume alcohol. Why would you expect everyone to drink? If you cannot entertain yourself for a few hours without alcohol then perhaps you should stay home.

People who enjoy a glass of wine aren't incapably of entertaining themselves for a few hours. I don't understand why people who don't drink think everyone else must have an alcohol problem. It's the cultural norm here. I wouldn't expect wine at a party in the middle east, I also would expect wine at a party in the US. OP, people won't stay very long if they show up not knowing no alcohol will be served.

And by the way, have you answered whether or not other people may drink in your house? I know a lovely Hindu couple who don't drink but offer it to their guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

No, it doesn't. Ditto for the kids and the sweets. You have a very narrow-minded view of how things should be.

Yes, actually it does. The cultural norm in America, like it or not, is to serve cake at a child's party and alcohol at an evening party. It's polite to let guests know in advance if this is a dry party since most people will bring wine. Save your guests the embarrassment, OP, and let them know.

+1

[Anonymous]

If they bring wine, say "how lovely, I will just go open it!"
Run into the kitchen, and flush it down the sink. Decant some alcohol-free wine into the same bottle, return to the party, and serve it up to the unsuspecting guests.
Win-win!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

No, it doesn't. Ditto for the kids and the sweets. You have a very narrow-minded view of how things should be.

Yes, actually it does. The cultural norm in America, like it or not, is to serve cake at a child's party and alcohol at an evening party. It's polite to let guests know in advance if this is a dry party since most people will bring wine. Save your guests the embarrassment, OP, and let them know.

Have you been on the health and wellness thread where 90% of the people say they hardly ever drink?

It's rude if you don't serve something to drink, it just doesn't have to be alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

No, it doesn't. Ditto for the kids and the sweets. You have a very narrow-minded view of how things should be.

Yes, actually it does. The cultural norm in America, like it or not, is to serve cake at a child's party and alcohol at an evening party. It's polite to let guests know in advance if this is a dry party since most people will bring wine. Save your guests the embarrassment, OP, and let them know.

Have you been on the health and wellness thread where 90% of the people say they hardly ever drink?

It's rude if you don't serve something to drink, it just doesn't have to be alcohol.

NP, 90%? PP, your math is WAY off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink. A normal social event includes some sort of food, soda, water and alcohol. Wine at the very least. If you're so against having alcohol at your home then just meet your friends out at a restaurant.

No, it doesn't. Ditto for the kids and the sweets. You have a very narrow-minded view of how things should be.

Yes, actually it does. The cultural norm in America, like it or not, is to serve cake at a child's party and alcohol at an evening party. It's polite to let guests know in advance if this is a dry party since most people will bring wine. Save your guests the embarrassment, OP, and let them know.

Have you been on the health and wellness thread where 90% of the people say they hardly ever drink?

It's rude if you don't serve something to drink, it just doesn't have to be alcohol.

Oh, I'm sorry, I wasn't aware that OP was only inviting people who self selectively post all the time on the health and wellness thread here.

[Anonymous]

Just let them know. Save both sides the embarrassment and awkwardness. It can still be a great party without alcohol. Serve other choices of drinks, maybe even a more unique alcohol free punch - a good "grown up" one with herbs or something a bit different. Ginger beer, infused water.... lots of options other than water and soda which a lot of people don't drink.

[Anonymous]

I would not expect alcohol but would def bring you a bottle of wine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they bring wine, say "how lovely, I will just go open it!"
Run into the kitchen, and flush it down the sink. Decant some alcohol-free wine into the same bottle, return to the party, and serve it up to the unsuspecting guests.
Win-win!

Um, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink.

This is completely absurd. I personally would be disappointed not to have the option of a glass of wine at an event like this, unless it is described as something like a tea, but i entirely respect the hosts' right to decide what they will serve and I would not think any less of them for not providing alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult party means offering alcohol. Kind of like a child's birthday party means some sort of cake or something sweet. I personally don't think you should be hosting a social event if you don't offer anything to drink.

This is completely absurd. I personally would be disappointed not to have the option of a glass of wine at an event like this, unless it is described as something like a tea, but i entirely respect the hosts' right to decide what they will serve and I would not think any less of them for not providing alcohol.

But seeing as the default gift for a party like this is a bottle of wine, it's incredibly rude not to let guests know they don't drink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they bring wine, say "how lovely, I will just go open it!"
Run into the kitchen, and flush it down the sink. Decant some alcohol-free wine into the same bottle, return to the party, and serve it up to the unsuspecting guests.
Win-win!

Um, no.

Alcohol free wine. I'd rather you decanted dishwater into the bottle.

I understand not serving alcohol at an open house from say 1pm to 4pm. But if this is an evening party, I promise your drinking guests who were not aware of your house rules won't stay more than half an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they bring wine, say "how lovely, I will just go open it!"
Run into the kitchen, and flush it down the sink. Decant some alcohol-free wine into the same bottle, return to the party, and serve it up to the unsuspecting guests.
Win-win!

Um, no.

Alcohol free wine. I'd rather you decanted dishwater into the bottle.

I understand not serving alcohol at an open house from say 1pm to 4pm. But if this is an evening party, I promise your drinking guests who were not aware of your house rules won't stay more than half an hour.

Awesome! OP, this is a total win for you -- not only do you get to throw a housewarming party, but you get to purge yourself of all your friends and acquaintances who are actually assholes! They're apparently all going to self-identify by leaving after 30 minutes because you won't provide alcohol.