husband tells me he needs to go to the washroom

[Anonymous]

"Washroom"? Are you from the 19th century or Canada?

[Anonymous]

My DH and I announce where we're going when we leave the room. It would be unnatural to just get up and walk out. If we are in the middle of something, it gives the other person an estimate on how long the departure will take. If it's bathroom related, it's also a request for privacy. I find his choice of terms a little childish, but not crass. My DH is crass ("I need to take a leak"), but it doesn't bother me since sometimes we jokingly say things that are far worse. The pee pee dance is kinda weird too, but during times in my life that are particularly happy/stress-free, I find myself acting sillier and talking to myself more often, so my guess would be he's just happy.

[Anonymous]

Pee is super feminine sounding. I've never met a guy who says, "I need to go pee" and if I did I would imagine he was the type of dude to do it sitting down. Totally turn off.

[Anonymous]

Oh gosh, I would be so turned off. Where did he pick this habit up? Watching Sex and the City?

You need to tell him this is a really unnattractive, teenage girl type of thing and that he needs to substitute another word, aka, "I need to use the bathroom/restroom."

I always just say, "I'll be right back, I'm gonna use the restroom."

[Anonymous]

I remember growing up, when my sisters and I would announce we "had to pee" (and only my sisters said it, I think it's a girl thing) told us that it was impolite and that we were to say, "I need to powder my nose."

My little brother overheard the conversation, and from then on, whenever he needed to go, would loudly announce, "I need to powder my nose!" before leaving the room.

It was actually really funny, if a bit juvenile- and actually a great deal more masculine sounding, the way he said it, than "I need to pee!"

Give him a few different suggestions- "I need to powder my nose" could be a good one if he is wanting to turn the bathroom trips into a joke, which it seems like he is trying to do.

[Anonymous]

OP I get this. Dh is from Brooklyn and once told me he was going to go take a sh*T. Once.

[Anonymous]

^ added to say, my Mom is the one who told us to say "powder my nose"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pee is super feminine sounding. I've never met a guy who says, "I need to go pee" and if I did I would imagine he was the type of dude to do it sitting down. Totally turn off.

This. But 'having a wee' sounds British and at least sounds fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pee is super feminine sounding. I've never met a guy who says, "I need to go pee" and if I did I would imagine he was the type of dude to do it sitting down. Totally turn off.

This. But 'having a wee' sounds British and at least sounds fun.

Wee, pee, piss, leak, poop, shit...it might just be me but why can't people say EXCUSE ME and do their private activity in private? What's with the TMI? I don't want to know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pee is super feminine sounding. I've never met a guy who says, "I need to go pee" and if I did I would imagine he was the type of dude to do it sitting down. Totally turn off.

This. But 'having a wee' sounds British and at least sounds fun.

Wee, pee, piss, leak, poop, shit...it might just be me but why can't people say EXCUSE ME and do their private activity in private? What's with the TMI? I don't want to know!

The guy PP again. This is why we use the terms like "taking a pit stop" and "going to the head". Both are ways to just say where we're going without being so graphic. I'm sure that all of my friends know what the bodily functions and none of us needs to be so explicit.

[Anonymous]

This is the first time I've ever heard that saying that you "have to pee" is "feminine." I am a man, and I'm pretty sure that I've said this on occasion. I wouldn't say it in polite company, but in sort of a joking way among casual friends and family. Personally, I prefer to just say that I have to run to the "bathroom" or "restroom."

I'm not sure what is meant by a "pee song." I've been in public restrooms where guys sometimes do sort of a comical humming and singing while they pee. Maybe that's what she means?

Honestly, OP seems a little uptight to me. I can imagine her pursing her lips in disapproval as she reads this very sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the first time I've ever heard that saying that you "have to pee" is "feminine." I am a man, and I'm pretty sure that I've said this on occasion. I wouldn't say it in polite company, but in sort of a joking way among casual friends and family. Personally, I prefer to just say that I have to run to the "bathroom" or "restroom."

I'm not sure what is meant by a "pee song." I've been in public restrooms where guys sometimes do sort of a comical humming and singing while they pee. Maybe that's what she means?

Honestly, OP seems a little uptight to me. I can imagine her pursing her lips in disapproval as she reads this very sentence.

Sorry, NP. It's very feminine. Maybe you are an effeminate guy and dont realize it?

I have heard nearly all my girlfriends say it and not one guy I know. What's next- guys going to the bathroom in groups to gossip? Seriously, it's just not a thing most guys say. Rarely is a consensus reached on DCUM and that is the consensus, so just accept it. And stop saying it!! ughhhhh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the first time I've ever heard that saying that you "have to pee" is "feminine." I am a man, and I'm pretty sure that I've said this on occasion. I wouldn't say it in polite company, but in sort of a joking way among casual friends and family. Personally, I prefer to just say that I have to run to the "bathroom" or "restroom."

I'm not sure what is meant by a "pee song." I've been in public restrooms where guys sometimes do sort of a comical humming and singing while they pee. Maybe that's what she means?

Honestly, OP seems a little uptight to me. I can imagine her pursing her lips in disapproval as she reads this very sentence.

Sorry, NP. It's very feminine. Maybe you are an effeminate guy and dont realize it?

I have heard nearly all my girlfriends say it and not one guy I know. What's next- guys going to the bathroom in groups to gossip? Seriously, it's just not a thing most guys say. Rarely is a consensus reached on DCUM and that is the consensus, so just accept it. And stop saying it!! ughhhhh

Generally guys use 'pee' as sub for psss, like I have to pee like a racehorse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the first time I've ever heard that saying that you "have to pee" is "feminine." I am a man, and I'm pretty sure that I've said this on occasion. I wouldn't say it in polite company, but in sort of a joking way among casual friends and family. Personally, I prefer to just say that I have to run to the "bathroom" or "restroom."

I'm not sure what is meant by a "pee song." I've been in public restrooms where guys sometimes do sort of a comical humming and singing while they pee. Maybe that's what she means?

Honestly, OP seems a little uptight to me. I can imagine her pursing her lips in disapproval as she reads this very sentence.

Sorry, NP. It's very feminine. Maybe you are an effeminate guy and dont realize it?

I have heard nearly all my girlfriends say it and not one guy I know. What's next- guys going to the bathroom in groups to gossip? Seriously, it's just not a thing most guys say. Rarely is a consensus reached on DCUM and that is the consensus, so just accept it. And stop saying it!! ughhhhh

Generally guys use 'pee' as sub for psss, like I have to pee like a racehorse.

IDK, either dont say anything and be like "ill be right back" or just say "piss". Pee is definitely like uber feminine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to know if the OP has a habit of asking her husband where he is going every time he stands up to leave a room. A lot of people do that without even realizing.

This ! Or she somehow implied that she wanted more detail in his day to day actions. I'm also curious if they lived together before marriage and if this is part of the newlywed growing pains.


OP, everyone has their preferences, so I think you should talk to him about it.

But, DH and I are announcers, but this has developed over time as our relationship has evolved. When we first started seeing each other neither of us went to the washroom when we were together, that went to wanting to freshen my make up to, excusing ourselves to the toilet, to just saying I have to go pee.

In rare cases there is even discussion of what was done in the toilet if something rare occurred.