Do you sit down and do homework with your child? Or say do it yourself?

[Anonymous]

I sit with my 6 y o DC because I just love him.

[Anonymous]

Homework time is an opportunity for me to see how much my kid knows, as well as guide them on the mechanics of doing the homework as well as the presentation.

I like to check the work for correctness and completion. I also want them to do their work neatly. This is something that is not emphasised in MCPS. I taught them how to research online, cite work, make bibliography, powerpoint, word-processing and excel when they were in 3rd grade.

I will also edit their work but they have to be sit with me through the whole process. I keep telling them to think how they can make their work even better.

I am their unpaid tutor in a way. My kids do their homework on their own but I am also working when they are. I do not like the idea of parents sitting and watching TV and expecting their kids to do their homework. I think that is disrespectful. My kids know that I am available to help them because education is a serious matter.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am there supervising and making sure she understands what she's doing. I also correct it. But she does the work herself and I pop in and out.

[Anonymous]

Never sat with them. Never thought to supervise. Helped when asked.

Both kids graduated with honors from college, blah, blah, blah.

[Anonymous]

"I do not like the idea of parents sitting and watching TV and expecting their kids to do their homework. I think that is disrespectful. "

Nutty!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7 year gets a lot of homework, word problems, multiplication. Do you sit with your child and help them with it? When were they able to do their own work?

No. DC does his own work. How is the teacher to know what your child is having trouble learning if you "help them" and correct their work before it is turned in ?

Plus, what are you teaching your child: " you can't do this without my help"

The consequences of you driving that message home every night will have life long consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Homework time is an opportunity for me to see how much my kid knows, as well as guide them on the mechanics of doing the homework as well as the presentation.

I like to check the work for correctness and completion. I also want them to do their work neatly. This is something that is not emphasised in MCPS. I taught them how to research online, cite work, make bibliography, powerpoint, word-processing and excel when they were in 3rd grade.

I will also edit their work but they have to be sit with me through the whole process. I keep telling them to think how they can make their work even better.

I am their unpaid tutor in a way. My kids do their homework on their own but I am also working when they are. I do not like the idea of parents sitting and watching TV and expecting their kids to do their homework. I think that is disrespectful. My kids know that I am available to help them because education is a serious matter.

OMG, OMG, OMG !

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

:shock:

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

I would rather that too, but I wouldn't do my kid's work for her. That's dishonest if she's turning the work in with her name written on the top of the paper. It's indisputably cheating. That's not something I'm willing to teach my kid is OK and not something I would participate in.

I don't believe the ! You people are batshit !

Any family member will type up a paper for someone in a time crunch, but that's just typing out the already written rough draft not changing things or adding ideas, so we're totally comfortable with the ethics of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

The reason you're getting slammed is that you should OWN the fact that some homework is unworthy of being done - and trust me, I've seen plenty of those in elementary school! So nobody does it, period! It's a waste of time. Otherwise you're just being a hypocrite.

My kid has a learning disability and motor issues. In early elementary, I would jettison some of the homework because it would have taken him too long to do it (fine motor skills, processing speed, etc) when he had already mastered the intellectual concept. Just sent it back undone. The teacher never made any noises.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

:shock:

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

I would rather that too, but I wouldn't do my kid's work for her. That's dishonest if she's turning the work in with her name written on the top of the paper. It's indisputably cheating. That's not something I'm willing to teach my kid is OK and not something I would participate in.

I don't believe the ! You people are batshit !

Any family member will type up a paper for someone in a time crunch, but that's just typing out the already written rough draft not changing things or adding ideas, so we're totally comfortable with the ethics of that.

What's wrong with the second post you quoted? Doing your kid's homework for them, no matter how stupid the assignment may be, is cheating.

I agree the first poster you quoted is nuts, but the second one was disagreeing with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Homework time is an opportunity for me to see how much my kid knows, as well as guide them on the mechanics of doing the homework as well as the presentation.

I like to check the work for correctness and completion. I also want them to do their work neatly. This is something that is not emphasised in MCPS. I taught them how to research online, cite work, make bibliography, powerpoint, word-processing and excel when they were in 3rd grade.

I will also edit their work but they have to be sit with me through the whole process. I keep telling them to think how they can make their work even better.

I am their unpaid tutor in a way. My kids do their homework on their own but I am also working when they are. I do not like the idea of parents sitting and watching TV and expecting their kids to do their homework. I think that is disrespectful. My kids know that I am available to help them because education is a serious matter.

OMG, OMG, OMG !

Why OMG? Both bold points actually kind of make sense. Noticing what your kid is doing for homework is a good way of staying connected to what's going on at school, and I think it's useful for kids to see direct, personalized editing and feedback on how to improve.

The bit about kids doing homework on their own while parents do something else being disrespectful is a bit odd though.

[Anonymous]

My dd's are in 1st and 3rd, and I sit down with both of them while they do homework. My 3rd grader has ADHD, so I have to constantly redirect her attention and nag, bribe, encourager her. The 1st grader still needs some explanations as to what she is supposed to do.

[Anonymous]

I do it myself for him. He always takes too long.

[Anonymous]

15 year old, no. 9 year old, very night. He struggles with math and handwriting and needs a lot of help.