Do you sit down and do homework with your child? Or say do it yourself?

[Anonymous]

If I sat with my child, I would never get any cooking or laundry done. Plus, I would have to listen to him bitch and moan. No thanks. He gets it done faster w/o an audience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

I would rather that too, but I wouldn't do my kid's work for her. That's dishonest if she's turning the work in with her name written on the top of the paper. It's indisputably cheating. That's not something I'm willing to teach my kid is OK and not something I would participate in.

Any family member will type up a paper for someone in a time crunch, but that's just typing out the already written rough draft not changing things or adding ideas, so we're totally comfortable with the ethics of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7 year gets a lot of homework, word problems, multiplication. Do you sit with your child and help them with it? When were they able to do their own work?

8 yo I'm 2nd grade. He does it in the kitchen while I'm near. He will ask questions if he has and I'm there to support and check when he's done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

Good luck with that later when she actually does need to do the work. Are you going to sit in her cubicle at her first job too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

Good lord, your child is not that special. She needs to suck it up and do the work assigned to her, you freaking helicopter mommy. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Now? At 12 I say, "Hey, did you do your homework?" as an afterthought. The answer is usually yes.

Then? I sat. And hounded. And helped guide without doing it for him. And sometimes yelled. And sometimes gave up.

[Anonymous]

18:25 here. I also made my kid do all his own typing. Which took FOREVER. And SUCKED. But he did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18:25 here. I also made my kid do all his own typing. Which took FOREVER. And SUCKED. But he did it.

...And I just want to clarify that I have NO PROBLEM with folks helping little kids with typing.

[Anonymous]

For the most part, my seven-year-old does it herself, usually without me bringing it up. She will sometimes ask me to review her math, but I never help during. I do have her read her Spanish to me aloud sometimes as I think she might skip some of it if she doesn't think I'm listening. In fact she is reading to me now; I just tune in occasionally.

[Anonymous]

Funny, my parents never helped me with my homework. I often forgot it.

But I grew up to be well-organized, gainfully employed, pay my bills on time, etc.

So I have hope for my kids....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

That's right - I do useless work for her. I rather she be doing gymnastics or running outside or skateboarding or playing with friends if she's not learning something from the work.

You are whacked.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the child. I stopped sitting with my older two kids with homework by age 8 or 9. Our youngest has ADHD and learning challenges, and I sat with her well into middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get in the habit of always sitting with them. This will be hard to break.

NP. Thanks for this advice. My DC is only in K, so not much homework, but I will heed your words!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I don't sit with her. I check on her to make sure she's not screwing around on her iPod.

Two of her teachers sometimes give bullshit homework, so if I have confirmed DD has the material down cold Ill do it for her. Or, if she has a lot, sometimes I'll do the typing portion of it if it's online so it goes faster.

But mostly, she does it by herself.

OMG. You do her bullshit HW?