help me move on - he is just not into me and its really killing me

[Anonymous]

Been there. Done that. Many o' times. Also in my forties...Not a lonely teen-ager anymore either.

It is tough, esp. when you have genuine feelings for this person and see such potential in a future relationship with him, but seems he has other ideas.

I think he is using his daughter's age as an excuse for not wanting to be exclusive and good for you for not buying into it. It would have been a shame for you to sit around and wait another couple years only to find out it was all an excuse to string you along.

You're right, he's not really into you as you are into him.

Yes, you miss him, you want so much to talk to him, to see him, to be in his company, etc. I know the feeling. I get it.

But the longer this drags out, the harder the fall. I know that feeling too.

No better time like the present. Take his phone no.# out of your phone. If it helps you, try even changing your no.# so he can no longer contact you. I actually had to do this once because my willpower was that weak!

And try to move on a little each day.

It's a brand new year. With brand new opportunities just waiting around the corner.

Meet some new friends. Get some new hobbies. Try some new experiences. Try to get out of the house more and spend more time in the presence of other people so you won't be stuck staring at your phone at home all day.

It will take some time, and it will be harder at times than others, but there will come a day when this will all be over and you will look back and realize how much better off you are without someone who didn't realize what an awesome woman you truly are.

His loss.

Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Been there. Done that. Many o' times. Also in my forties...Not a lonely teen-ager anymore either.

It is tough, esp. when you have genuine feelings for this person and see such potential in a future relationship with him, but seems he has other ideas.

I think he is using his daughter's age as an excuse for not wanting to be exclusive and good for you for not buying into it. It would have been a shame for you to sit around and wait another couple years only to find out it was all an excuse to string you along.

You're right, he's not really into you as you are into him.

Yes, you miss him, you want so much to talk to him, to see him, to be in his company, etc. I know the feeling. I get it.

But the longer this drags out, the harder the fall. I know that feeling too.

No better time like the present. Take his phone no.# out of your phone. If it helps you, try even changing your no.# so he can no longer contact you. I actually had to do this once because my willpower was that weak!

And try to move on a little each day.

It's a brand new year. With brand new opportunities just waiting around the corner.

Meet some new friends. Get some new hobbies. Try some new experiences. Try to get out of the house more and spend more time in the presence of other people so you won't be stuck staring at your phone at home all day.

It will take some time, and it will be harder at times than others, but there will come a day when this will all be over and you will look back and realize how much better off you are without someone who didn't realize what an awesome woman you truly are.

His loss.

Oh well.

OP here. Thank you for this post. It was very helpful.