furniture from parents house-- what's fair?

[Anonymous]

When your parents gave it to your sister, it became hers. I know you still think of it as your parents' stuff because you grew up with it but it no longer is theirs. It's your sister's.

In my family, we had the other side of this situation. My aunt expressed a need for the family's furniture when she & her family bought a new house, but later claimed she never wanted it and tried to charge others for "storing" it. Awesome, really.

Either way - whether you want your sister's stuff or if your sister decides one day she doesn't want it anymore, it's currently her possession and her responsibility to handle who, if anyone, gets it next.

[Anonymous]

21:25 again, I also just want to say that this is exactly why I asked my dad to please specify who he wants to get what in terms of family possessions. He said that he just wants each get an equal share of the estate. That's all fine and dandy when it comes to liquid assets, but we have some nice art pieces, a fancy china set - it would be nice for those items to go to the sibling most likely to use it and keep it in the family, not the one most likely to sell it for cash. Dividing up the cash value after the sale doesn't change the fact that something unique, of value to the family, is lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:21:25 again, I also just want to say that this is exactly why I asked my dad to please specify who he wants to get what in terms of family possessions. He said that he just wants each get an equal share of the estate. That's all fine and dandy when it comes to liquid assets, but we have some nice art pieces, a fancy china set - it would be nice for those items to go to the sibling most likely to use it and keep it in the family, not the one most likely to sell it for cash. Dividing up the cash value after the sale doesn't change the fact that something unique, of value to the family, is lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I am not sure a table that was bought by our folks at a commercial establishment that is still in business is an heirloom. No matter how expensive or nice. Lol. Would your opinion be different if it were a car?

No.