Help--reasonable to ask in laws not to come under these circumstances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, MIL should not be visiting anyone while ill. That's just a basic courtesy.

However if your mother is sick and you are okay exposing yourself to her, you need to be okay with your MIL's illnesss too. I cant see that your mother is going to get any sicker from what your MIL has (if it was going to get passed somehow to her) It sounds like you want to take care of your family and not be bothered with his.

This makes no sense. I'm not the OP, but if f I had a family member that needed me there, and IMO elderly people in the hospital need someone to advocate for them, then I'd be there. If there was a personal risk, I'd take that personal risk (with whatever precautions made sense but allowed me to care for my loved one). That doesn't mean that I need to be OK with someone who is germy but perfectly capable of taking care of themselves coming to visit me.

Furthermore, someone recovering from a respiratory illness that made them sick enough to be in the hospital is going to vulnerable. Even a minor cold virus can cause a serious setback.

OP, I think I'd call and ask them to come later. Or maybe your DH can take the kids down there, if there are any, on the 26th to spend some time. Any decent person is going to understand that your mother's health is the priority.

[Anonymous]

Send kids and DH to ILs. Stay here and take care of your mom.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't ask the doctor. The MIL shouldn't want to come if she's sick. Treat her the same way they treat kids in daycare. They can't have had a fever for like 24 hrs, but maybe add some more days on. I wasn't clear if the mother might get out of the hospital and come home at the same time the ILs are there. DH needs to get his priorities straight. OP's mother's health is more important than entertaining his parents right now. OP is not in a position to entertain company. They should understand.

[Anonymous]

OP it's nice that you don't want to pass your mother's flu on to your MIL.

[Anonymous]

You don't visit a physically fragile person when you are contagious. Your little bug could kill them.