MIL is giving DD a christmas dress for christmas in her current size

[Anonymous]

pp- already (not all ready- spell check)

[Anonymous]

Well I got one for you OP,

My MIL is a shop-a-holic. She used to buy multiples of the same ugly dresses in different sizes. One year she bought our daughter a shimmery gold dress in 3 sizes. HOWEVER, my daughter HATED the dress with a passion and would scream and twitch every time I tried to put her in it for a picture. I told her numerous times to STOP buying formal dresses that she would likely never wear. Nope, she kept doing it.
She didn't stop until our daughter was about 11 or so.

[Anonymous]

How is this a problem? Is it your money? Wear the fucking dress to church and donate it afterwards.

I do not understand this tendency to make every little thing a problem. Unclench OP.

[Anonymous]

My MIL has terrible taste in clothing. Every item she buys my daughter is garish and in some animal print. I'm always happy that she buys things in her current size or a little small so they can go in the donate bag faster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this a problem? Is it your money? Wear the fucking dress to church and donate it afterwards.

I do not understand this tendency to make every little thing a problem. Unclench OP.

Somebody will buy it at the Goodwill and love it deeply.

[Anonymous]

say thank you? seriously, i can't believe you are complaining about this. it's a gift!

[Anonymous]

Have her wear it New Years Eve or New Years Day. Or if you go somewhere Christmassy after Christmas (like to see the Nutcracker.)

If this is the biggest issue you have with your MIL, you are one lucky DIL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am really dreading the day I become a MIL.

+1. So glad I have a daughter and not a son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's some phrase…don't assume ill intent when simple thoughtlessness will do… I doubt your MIL is trying to "achieve" anything, I think she just didn't think it through.

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Sounds like you're really scraping for things to be mad at your MIL for.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

This. Christmas is 3 days away. If you know DD's getting a dress for sure, then don't spend money on another one.

OP here, because she told DH and he told me a couple days ago (and she did it last year). I'm not complaining, I'm just wondering what her reasoning might be. And no, I can't ask her, that would be awkward. "Oh, a pretty new dress, why are you giving it to her now?" would be offensive. And asking for it early would be very rude, I wouldn't do that.

Also, like I said, they don't get dressed up for christmas, everyone sits around in their PJs or sweats all day (makes me very uncomfortable, personally, that's not how I was raised), so there is no expectation to change DD into a christmas themed dress, that would be weird.

I guess I'll just take a picture, send it, then try to sell it next year.

OP, you are being petty and looking for reasons to be irritated by your MIL.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

This. Christmas is 3 days away. If you know DD's getting a dress for sure, then don't spend money on another one.

OP here, because she told DH and he told me a couple days ago (and she did it last year). I'm not complaining, I'm just wondering what her reasoning might be. And no, I can't ask her, that would be awkward. "Oh, a pretty new dress, why are you giving it to her now?" would be offensive. And asking for it early would be very rude, I wouldn't do that.

Also, like I said, they don't get dressed up for christmas, everyone sits around in their PJs or sweats all day (makes me very uncomfortable, personally, that's not how I was raised), so there is no expectation to change DD into a christmas themed dress, that would be weird.

I guess I'll just take a picture, send it, then try to sell it next year.

OP, you are being petty and looking for reasons to be irritated by your MIL.

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