MIL is giving DD a christmas dress for christmas in her current size

[Anonymous]

Is there any reason why you can't ask her directly, OP?

[Anonymous]

Now she has a pretty New Years dress . Done

[Anonymous]

My girls will change clothes several times a day if I let them.

If it makes you feel any better, my MIL (not DH's mom, but FIL's wife) sent my DDs personalized big sister and little sister t-shirts with BOTH of their names spelled wrong. One she used an acceptable (but not the one we use) spelling but the other one is a WTF spelling--she sent a personalized shirt for the same kid last year with a different wrong spelling. I picked up a couple of t-shirts to give the girls so they can call and say "thanks for the shirt". Oh, and FIL spent 5x as much on DS' present as what she spent on the girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

[Anonymous]

I am really dreading the day I become a MIL.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care about this? Just say thanks and donate/exchange/sell on Ebay. Half the gifts my kids and I get are things we don't need. It's a holiday tradition!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

This. Christmas is 3 days away. If you know DD's getting a dress for sure, then don't spend money on another one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

This. Christmas is 3 days away. If you know DD's getting a dress for sure, then don't spend money on another one.

OP here, because she told DH and he told me a couple days ago (and she did it last year). I'm not complaining, I'm just wondering what her reasoning might be. And no, I can't ask her, that would be awkward. "Oh, a pretty new dress, why are you giving it to her now?" would be offensive. And asking for it early would be very rude, I wouldn't do that.

Also, like I said, they don't get dressed up for christmas, everyone sits around in their PJs or sweats all day (makes me very uncomfortable, personally, that's not how I was raised), so there is no expectation to change DD into a christmas themed dress, that would be weird.

I guess I'll just take a picture, send it, then try to sell it next year.

[Anonymous]

It might still fit her next year if it runs big.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's funny. My kid can still wear her Christmas nightgown from 2 years ago. It's gotten shorter on her but still fits just fine.

Anyway I would really not worry about this too much. Do your daughter like to play dress up? If it's really not an outfit you could wear to other occasions, let go in the dress up bin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

How do you know she is getting a xmas dress as a gift?

Did MIL tell you? Did she also say she was going to give it to you asap so the little one can wear it to the festivities/church/dinner/ whatever? Did you ask?

It's quite common for grandparents to love to buy special occasion clothes for their grandchildren. Sometimes you might have to suck it up. One year our DD1 only wore the xmas dress we got her for the holiday card pics, then had to wear Grandma's santa outfit all Xmas day. oh well. $40, flush.

This. Christmas is 3 days away. If you know DD's getting a dress for sure, then don't spend money on another one.

OP here, because she told DH and he told me a couple days ago (and she did it last year). I'm not complaining, I'm just wondering what her reasoning might be. And no, I can't ask her, that would be awkward. "Oh, a pretty new dress, why are you giving it to her now?" would be offensive. And asking for it early would be very rude, I wouldn't do that.

Also, like I said, they don't get dressed up for christmas, everyone sits around in their PJs or sweats all day (makes me very uncomfortable, personally, that's not how I was raised), so there is no expectation to change DD into a christmas themed dress, that would be weird.

I guess I'll just take a picture, send it, then try to sell it next year.

"Oh a pretty dress! Thanks MIL! Oh no! It's too small. Where did you get it/is there a gift receipt/ we'll exchange it for next years size. Haha does that mean we all have to change out of pajamas next year? Hope not! Hahaha"

[Anonymous]

I really don't get what the big deal is. She could wear it for a couple hours on Christmas day if she really needed to. However, it's not like the holidays will suddenly be over as soon as December 25th has passed. Can't she wear it for a nice dinner somewhere between Christmas and New Years? Or even just at home? Your MIL saw a cute dress and thought it would look even cuter on her granddaughter. Granddaughter can wear it anytime between December 25th and January 5th. It doesn't seem that complicated to me?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand - why would you give a christmas themed dress for christmas, when there will not be an occasion to wear it afterwards? ILs go to church on christmas eve (and DD has a nice dress for that) and they hang out in their PJs all day christmas day, so there's no opportunity for DD to wear the dress after the holiday when she opens it on christmas day. And since it's in her current size, it won't fit her next year for christmas (and I would totally appreciate that gesture). Can someone please explain what MILs reasoning might be?

Does she need reasoning? She's a grandmother. How many Christmases does she have left before she's an invalid? Try to be a better person OP

[Anonymous]

There's some phrase…don't assume ill intent when simple thoughtlessness will do… I doubt your MIL is trying to "achieve" anything, I think she just didn't think it through.

[Anonymous]

My mom used to send the current size Christmas dress to my DD every year. Yes, I agree, it was pointless- we had attended all the holiday parties all ready and the dress would be too small the following year. I tried explaining this to my mother many, many times, but we continued to get the current size dress and it always came from Dillard's Dept. store (which aren't around here...). Just smile, say thank you- and then pass it on to a friend with a younger daughter.