My wealthy family just doesn't fit in and I think its very interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:There's a whole language that super wealthy established people have, a whole culture, that the rest of us will never know. And honestly, aside from marrying into it, I don't know how you will learn it.

My parents were wealthy and were able to send us to exclusive schools -- but we landed in the 'wrong dorm' in those schools. Most of the other people on my floor were international students who were wealthy but not part of the US establishment, kids on scholarship, other first generation college attenders, etc. I arrived at college with the wrong clothes, didn't know which were the right parties to go to, etc. Majored in the wrong thing compared to the wealthy kids.

My parents tried -- we had horseback riding lessons, skiing lessons, etc. They had been even more clueless themselves and wanted us to have the skills and knowledge they didn't have. But they gave us names which indicated that we belonged to the middle class not the upper class -- think "Suzie" vs. Chambers or Talmadge. We didn't live in the right suburb, didn't even know what the right suburbs were.

I honestly think that the only thing to do is to opt out of any attempt to be accepted by those people. They're kind of snotty and mean anyway.

+1 Very interesting. Please share more of your story! Are Chambers and Talmadge really the uppercrust names we should strive for? Curious, what sort of names did you give your children?

[Anonymous]

I am not wealthy. I am not poor, but not wealthy. But, I am educated and professional. I work for what I have, but speak with proper grammar, and use appropriate language for the situation.

I have been around "old money" people, and had no problem, and I can relate to blue collar people.

The jist of it is, I do not judge based on my perception of wealth. I judge based on intelligence and actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will learn how to deal with douche bags and this will be valuable for their future when they have to deal with them in their business.

Starting at home...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family is new money and we have normal friends and unlike the "country club" crowd we do not only associate with other people who have money. We cuss, we yell ,we are just a normal family! We are totally an outcast amongst other "wealthy " people . Although I can assure you on paper that we are probably wealthier than 99% of the people in the room. Maybe its because we did not have a strong entitled upbringing? Did not attend elite private schools? It bothers me that the wealthy "wasp" type think they are gods gift to earth and are so much better than people. There have been situations before were i wanted to say" you know what really aren't as rich as you act so stop being a fucking dick".

Why is it that people who come from "family money" have a tendency to think they are so much better than people when in often times they have not accomplished much at all?

Troll score: 3.

Yep. D- trolling, would not read again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not wealthy. I am not poor, but not wealthy. But, I am educated and professional. I work for what I have, but speak with proper grammar, and use appropriate language for the situation.

I have been around "old money" people, and had no problem, and I can relate to blue collar people.

The jist of it is, I do not judge based on my perception of wealth. I judge based on intelligence and actions.

Sure they will let you park their car and tolerate you but that does not mean they want you around.

You are really not getting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The difference isn't new money vs old money, it's education and class.

BWAHHHHH!!!! Really tell me more.

It is about having connections and what they can get from you. Maybe a few end up at higher levels of education but most are at rehab.

[Anonymous]

Goodness gracious, OP, as my four year old would say.

I'm sorry for being blunt, but not only do your manners leave much to be desired, your end goals in life seem suspect. People around you are probably reacting to this.

Do you measure your own worth by how much money you have? Do you judge others by how wealthy they seem?

People will value you for your social communication skills and your kindness.
There is a whole world of culture, general knowledge and etiquette that it would behove you to study. Etiquette is the art of making people feel at ease, and the first rule is to practice sympathetic restraint in your conversation. Communication, or the art of conversation, takes practice. You need to listen more than you talk, and therefore you need to ask the right questions. You need to talk about current events, and therefore need to be well-informed. You could start with a subscription to the New Yorker.

Shallow and brash will not do.

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Goodness gracious, OP, as my four year old would say.

I'm sorry for being blunt, but not only do your manners leave much to be desired, your end goals in life seem suspect. People around you are probably reacting to this.

Do you measure your own worth by how much money you have? Do you judge others by how wealthy they seem?

People will value you for your social communication skills and your kindness.
There is a whole world of culture, general knowledge and etiquette that it would behove you to study. Etiquette is the art of making people feel at ease, and the first rule is to practice sympathetic restraint in your conversation. Communication, or the art of conversation, takes practice. You need to listen more than you talk, and therefore you need to ask the right questions. You need to talk about current events, and therefore need to be well-informed. You could start with a subscription to the New Yorker.

Shallow and brash will not do.

I am pretty sure you teach your child to walk away from mean and selfish girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not wealthy. I am not poor, but not wealthy. But, I am educated and professional. I work for what I have, but speak with proper grammar, and use appropriate language for the situation.

I have been around "old money" people, and had no problem, and I can relate to blue collar people.

The jist of it is, I do not judge based on my perception of wealth. I judge based on intelligence and actions.

gist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just live your life and be who you are. Fit in enough to accomplish what you need to accomplish and don't worry about if people like you.

Yes, OP, you sound defensive which makes it sound like you are worried about what those people with old money think. Try to let go of that and find people that you enjoy and stop worrying about how much money anyone in the room has.

[Anonymous]

Isn't this the premise of The Beverly Hillbillies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't this the premise of The Beverly Hillbillies?

Yes. New money and newer money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not wealthy. I am not poor, but not wealthy. But, I am educated and professional. I work for what I have, but speak with proper grammar, and use appropriate language for the situation.

I have been around "old money" people, and had no problem, and I can relate to blue collar people.

The jist of it is, I do not judge based on my perception of wealth. I judge based on intelligence and actions.

Sure they will let you park their car and tolerate you but that does not mean they want you around.

You are really not getting it.

NP here. Actually it is you who doesn't get it. Most of the extraordinary rich people that I know ($100M+) enjoy being around people who let their hair down and share their interests much more than those they are required to see at benefits and such. There are exceptions of course. But they are people. They like things that people like. They don't like to be around people who either judge them or desire them for their money. Most, at least of those in my circle, are very educated. Education is a priority and an interest, so they are more likely to see commonalitites with those who share that interest, especially if it is a more focussed shared intellectual pursuit.

[Anonymous]

Why has this question garnered so many replies in so short a time? Reading from the cursing in the question, the personality of the OP and not money is the reason OP is shunned by "old money" people. But just the same, all of you who can't resist telling him so have problems of your own.

Let this thread die. please.

[Anonymous]

Let this thread die. please.

Please let it die.

Just when you think you've read it all here, a little bit more vomit rises in the mouth.