My wealthy family just doesn't fit in and I think its very interesting.

[Anonymous]

eh, if they're jerks why are you so antsy to "fit in" with them anyway?

[Anonymous]

It seems like the OP wants to be accepted by these trust funders. I'm not sure why it matters so much. Most of us are friends with a select few people. Just because you're super rich doesn't mean you're going to get along with the other super rich - new money or not. In other words, having money in common means nothing.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you were never taught to have manners. Hopefully you are using your resources to outsource the education for your children.

[Anonymous]

There's a whole language that super wealthy established people have, a whole culture, that the rest of us will never know. And honestly, aside from marrying into it, I don't know how you will learn it.

My parents were wealthy and were able to send us to exclusive schools -- but we landed in the 'wrong dorm' in those schools. Most of the other people on my floor were international students who were wealthy but not part of the US establishment, kids on scholarship, other first generation college attenders, etc. I arrived at college with the wrong clothes, didn't know which were the right parties to go to, etc. Majored in the wrong thing compared to the wealthy kids.

My parents tried -- we had horseback riding lessons, skiing lessons, etc. They had been even more clueless themselves and wanted us to have the skills and knowledge they didn't have. But they gave us names which indicated that we belonged to the middle class not the upper class -- think "Suzie" vs. Chambers or Talmadge. We didn't live in the right suburb, didn't even know what the right suburbs were.

I honestly think that the only thing to do is to opt out of any attempt to be accepted by those people. They're kind of snotty and mean anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My family is new money and we have normal friends and unlike the "country club" crowd we do not only associate with other people who have money. We cuss, we yell ,we are just a normal family! We are totally an outcast amongst other "wealthy " people . Although I can assure you on paper that we are probably wealthier than 99% of the people in the room. Maybe its because we did not have a strong entitled upbringing? Did not attend elite private schools? It bothers me that the wealthy "wasp" type think they are gods gift to earth and are so much better than people. There have been situations before were i wanted to say" you know what really aren't as rich as you act so stop being a fucking dick".

Why is it that people who come from "family money" have a tendency to think they are so much better than people when in often times they have not accomplished much at all?

Troll score: 3.

Out of 100?

I give it a -3. You can do better, trolls!

[Anonymous]

I don't know how some of you manage to get through the day. It must be so exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a whole language that super wealthy established people have, a whole culture, that the rest of us will never know. And honestly, aside from marrying into it, I don't know how you will learn it.

My parents were wealthy and were able to send us to exclusive schools -- but we landed in the 'wrong dorm' in those schools. Most of the other people on my floor were international students who were wealthy but not part of the US establishment, kids on scholarship, other first generation college attenders, etc. I arrived at college with the wrong clothes, didn't know which were the right parties to go to, etc. Majored in the wrong thing compared to the wealthy kids.

My parents tried -- we had horseback riding lessons, skiing lessons, etc. They had been even more clueless themselves and wanted us to have the skills and knowledge they didn't have. But they gave us names which indicated that we belonged to the middle class not the upper class -- think "Suzie" vs. Chambers or Talmadge. We didn't live in the right suburb, didn't even know what the right suburbs were.

I honestly think that the only thing to do is to opt out of any attempt to be accepted by those people. They're kind of snotty and mean anyway.

+100 I made a whole hearted effort to learn all these ins and outs. just exhausting and in the end, boring. Be who you are. No need to chase these people around.

[Anonymous]

OK so the reason they're looking down on you isn't because they think they make more money than you, it's because they have more class.

No one cares how much money you have, get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are confusing access to wealth and attainment of manners.

+1. They probably think of op as being crass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family is new money and we have normal friends and unlike the "country club" crowd we do not only associate with other people who have money. We cuss, we yell ,we are just a normal family! We are totally an outcast amongst other "wealthy " people . Although I can assure you on paper that we are probably wealthier than 99% of the people in the room. Maybe its because we did not have a strong entitled upbringing? Did not attend elite private schools? It bothers me that the wealthy "wasp" type think they are gods gift to earth and are so much better than people. There have been situations before were i wanted to say" you know what really aren't as rich as you act so stop being a fucking dick".

Why is it that people who come from "family money" have a tendency to think they are so much better than people when in often times they have not accomplished much at all?

Because you have money, but no class. Duh. The definition of nouveau riche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How on earth would you possibly know how much money another family has or how they got it , unless they are the Kennedys?
My family is from another area of the country , I keep my mouth shut about money, and I guarantee you no one knows I pull from a trust

Same. I have a full time job for yh sanity, the sense of purpose and the health insurance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How on earth would you possibly know how much money another family has or how they got it , unless they are the Kennedys?
My family is from another area of the country , I keep my mouth shut about money, and I guarantee you no one knows I pull from a trust

Same. I have a full time job for yh sanity, the sense of purpose and the health insurance.

+3

[Anonymous]

You are thinking about how much better you are than everyone in the room. It's coming from a place of insecurity, but its reverse discrimination. You think because you are wealthier you should be automatically accepted and liked. They don't see it that way.

[Anonymous]

Why would you even want to hang out with people like that?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to hang out with OP regardless of anyone's HHI or net worth, old or new money or any other variable.