Am I obligated to invite my MIL to child's first birthday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, MIL has not brought it up. She has never once asked to visit us. We invite her about twice a year. She also has never asked us to visit her (she lives in the midwest). She's very passive in that sense, or maybe just disinterested in her family. She's just really odd in general. She accepted our invitation for the all-expenses paid vacation in October (with her grandson), but never asked us ahead of time where we were staying, what we were doing, etc. She never gave input into what she wanted to do on the vacation. She didn't seem to care. The whole week we were there she didn't ask me a single thing about myself. Same with my husband. She just talked about herself the whole time.

She never calls us. My husband Skypes with her about once every 2 weeks, other than that they don't talk on the phone or email.

She's always been like this.

Dissenting pp here again. Just want to add that she may not be able to afford to visit which is why she doesn't make the overture. And talking about herself...well she is socially awkward perhaps.

[Anonymous]

No way. She lives too far away, she's not interested, and it would be a downer. Your kid is 1. A simple party at home inviting no one is fine.

[Anonymous]

No way. Doesn't even sound like she'd want to come.

[Anonymous]

Haha, my mil booked her own ticket and told us they "were" coming! It was miserable.

No. Don't invite.

[Anonymous]

If you are paying for flight and everything else. I would invite YOUR parents and not DH's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It isn't only your decision. How about asking your husband, not us.

Totally. You shouldn't be the go-between. Stop inserting yourself and have a conversation with your spouse.