What would you do if your 7 year old called you annoying?

[Anonymous]

What would happen at my house?

1. "Go to your room, right now. You don't talk to adults that way." He could stay there for a half an hour or so.

2. No holiday display.

3. No TV or whatever the rest of the evening. DH and I will occupy the couch and watch an adult movie or catch up on our shows. 7 year old can amuse himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would happen at my house?

1. "Go to your room, right now. You don't talk to adults that way." He could stay there for a half an hour or so.

2. No holiday display.

3. No TV or whatever the rest of the evening. DH and I will occupy the couch and watch an adult movie or catch up on our shows. 7 year old can amuse himself.

For #1 aren't you heading out the door?

I'm sure he be delighted about #2.

You watch porn around your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd let him go without a jacket and let him be cold.

+1. Moreover, DS wouldn't have called me annoying in the first place because i wouldn't have used words that made it an issue

Me, as I'm getting keys and heading to the front door: hey Steve grab a coat, we"re leaving.

Son who is >5 yo or so: No, I don't need one.

Me: ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't mind it, but I'm trying to raise an independent thinker - not a future janitor or maid.

The opposite of "independent thinker" is not "janitor or maid".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I imposed consequences but husband thinks I shouldn't overreact to that type of "small stuff."

FWIW, I asked him to put on a coat before going out to see a winter lights display.

OP, did the conversation go like this?

You: Please put on a coat.
Him: You're annoying.

If so, my response would be "Too bad, put on a coat."

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I would ignore this. My kids are teens now and have never called me a bitch or anything like that.

I think there is a difference between criticism and name calling. Calling me a bitch would be name calling. Saying "I;m annoyed, you are annoying me, you are annoying," sounds to me like a kid who is genuinely annoyed. I may insist on the coat (though generally I'd let the consequences speak for themselves) but I'm not so thin skinned I can't take it if my kid says he's annoyed.

[Anonymous]

I have a 7 year old child. If this was said to me, I would actually consider whether the statement is true. If it is I would probably discuss it and ask what specially she finds annoying, within reason. I try to create an environment in which my child does not feel judged or punished for having an opinion and expressing it. Now if the child called me an a-- hole that would be different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 7 year old child. If this was said to me, I would actually consider whether the statement is true. If it is I would probably discuss it and ask what specially she finds annoying, within reason. I try to create an environment in which my child does not feel judged or punished for having an opinion and expressing it. Now if the child called me an a-- hole that would be different.

Ah, more discussion.

If being asked to put a coat on is annoying this kid is going to have a rough time growing up.

My response would really depend on my mood and what his behavior had been like that day. I might say "fine, but no whining" and go with a reminder that I'm mom and part of my job is to be annoying. Or, I might cancel the trip and let the 7 year old be bored for the evening. For me, a lot of it depends on the attitude that goes with it.

My youngest is now 13. If he goes without a coat and is cold he will survive. He will survive much happier if he's not mouthy and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't mind it, but I'm trying to raise an independent thinker - not a future janitor or maid.

An independent thinker can still be courteous to everyone. I don't see how those relate.

+1. Won't pp's kid be shocked when he/she gets fired from job after job for speaking his mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I tell him he's rude and he has to apologize - which he does.
He's 9.5 and backtalk is creeping up.

By 9.5 - he should know better to even try and backtalk. If the consequence of being rude is that he has to apologize, then good luck to you.

I think you are a complete moron. Ooops, that was so rude. I apologize.

Kids are different. There's nothing wrong with pp's answer. You, however, provided a rude and moronic response.

[Anonymous]

Wow.

In my home - "Put your coat on".
Kid "You are so annoying".
Me "You don't want me to show you annoying" laughter
Kid "Arrrggghhhh!" Rolls eyes and puts coat on.

Spare me the drama mamas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

In my home - "Put your coat on".
Kid "You are so annoying".
Me "You don't want me to show you annoying" laughter
Kid "Arrrggghhhh!" Rolls eyes and puts coat on.

Spare me the drama mamas.

Spare us the wows, teenaged mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would happen at my house?

1. "Go to your room, right now. You don't talk to adults that way." He could stay there for a half an hour or so.

2. No holiday display.

3. No TV or whatever the rest of the evening. DH and I will occupy the couch and watch an adult movie or catch up on our shows. 7 year old can amuse himself.

For #1 aren't you heading out the door?

I'm sure he be delighted about #2.

You watch porn around your kids?

Wow, you have a dirty mind.

"Adult movie" = movie for adults, rather than family movie or kid movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would happen at my house?

1. "Go to your room, right now. You don't talk to adults that way." He could stay there for a half an hour or so.

2. No holiday display.

3. No TV or whatever the rest of the evening. DH and I will occupy the couch and watch an adult movie or catch up on our shows. 7 year old can amuse himself.

For #1 aren't you heading out the door?

I'm sure he be delighted about #2.

You watch porn around your kids?

Yes. Now we're not going anywhere. If you can't behave, we don't go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would happen at my house?

1. "Go to your room, right now. You don't talk to adults that way." He could stay there for a half an hour or so.

2. No holiday display.

3. No TV or whatever the rest of the evening. DH and I will occupy the couch and watch an adult movie or catch up on our shows. 7 year old can amuse himself.

For #1 aren't you heading out the door?

I'm sure he be delighted about #2.

You watch porn around your kids?

Yes. Now we're not going anywhere. If you can't behave, we don't go.

As a kid, I hated being dragged to things like driving around to see Christmas lights. I imagine most kids feel the same way. If the result of telling my mother that she was annoying was that I got to spend all evening playing with my toys at home, while my parents watched TV and didn't bother me, I'd have told her she was annoying every day.